I replied by saying of course I was willing to do anything constructive that is good for DD, including taking things seriously, talking to the teacher, whatever, and would not withhold important information, and said the only change I could think of lately is that I was sick for a few days.
Then she said something about how I "may not like [her] very much, but we are still her parents."
I didn't address anything I didn't feel was relevant. The whole thing weirded me out a lot.
I know I could say "Hey, I'm trying to move on." but I don't feel good about that. I like this "pretend I don't hear anything irrelevant" thing (AKA 'crickets') more. It's working well.
This is tough to learn how to do properly. I think I executed it okay?
DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats
WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs
I edit often for clarity.
When she starts pulling the I'm your friend shit? The response is: I do not have a personal relationship with you independent of DD. We interact because you are my DD's mother and I expect you to respect your role to be a good parent to her by communicating details about her when it's appropriate. That is all that is on offer from me to you. Or some such.
I say that because sometimes the flat out statement could unnecessarily inflame your ex while calmly ignoring her bullshit get the same message across.
[This message edited by GabyBaby at 3:46 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)]
It is so damn hard detaching. I'm amazed I made it this far, as slow as it's been, but I keep pushing at it and making progress.
She still makes me really nervous sometimes.