Once in a while I go back to JFO, General and Reconciliation and read there and mostly, it makes me sad.
I see a lot of desperate people and know with every fiber of my being the levels of pain they are going through.
I see people trying to figure out how to snoop on their partner, being in denial despite a gazillion red flags and suddenly 2011 and 2012 flash right in front of my eyes, when I was trying to figure out where OW lived, how to invisibly tape a recorder in XH's car, was following him around and was wasting money on all kind of gadgets to confirm what I knew all along.
I see the advice people are given - the same advice I was given and which was so true and right on but which I chose to ignore for a long time, thus delaying my moving on and healing.
I truly wish there was a way to take the collective wisdom of the members who have gone through this hell and came out on the other side, put it in a pill and give it to those who are just about to enter that valley of tears and despair. I wished there was a way to show them a glimpse into their possible future, free from betrayal, free from having to sell out to get the 'dirt' on their partner, free from abuse and strong to make their own decisions and steer their own lives.
Not really any point to this post, other than wanting to share.