I came to learn that she was married to her first husband for 16 years but then got divorced. After getting divorced, she spent 24 years living single. She traveled with her sister, raised her kids, and had a ball. She reconnected with her current husband after she had retired, left the area, and lived out of state for several years. When he heard she was back in town, he got in touch to ask her out. They were married a year later.
I'm not saying that we all need to wait 24 years before we start dating again, but I loved her attitude-- she got divorced, but she didn't need a relationship to enjoy life again. She lived life on her terms, traveling and spending time with her family. When the right person came along, she already had a full life, and she wasn't looking desperately to find someone because she felt lonely.
It was nice to see her healthy perspective; we are constantly barraged by the "you must be coupled up no matter what" messages that are hurled at us from every direction. She seems really happy, and they are enjoying a great retirement together. I guess that sometimes good things do come to those who wait.
She lived life on her terms, traveling and spending time with her family
That's my story now, only include lots of friends. I'm enjoying it immensely.
Stronger08, that's a great attitude. I retired early, too, but before DDay. Retirement is MUCH more enjoyable on MY terms than it ever was in my M. I haven't officially moved out of state, but I have spent a LOT of time away from where I call home, even when I'm in the same state. I now have several "homes".
p.s. Very happy to be at another of my 'homes' this particular winter!
I now have several "homes".
I got a couple myself. One in the mountains and one in the city. Also been thinking about buying a condo in Fla. next year. Gotta see how my investments perform before then. Real estate is so cheap these days. If I hit hard times I can always rent them out. Funny when I was M my income was 4X as much as it is now and I was always broke and in debt. Now I don't owe anybody, my homes are paid for and I have money working for me instead of me working for money. Don't take a brain surgeon to figure out who was blowing all the dough. Options are great to have !!!!
Ta74, sorry for the t/j......
She told me the best time of her life was when she was single between husbands. She encouraged me to embrace my single status and enjoy it as a time when I only had myself to answer to. Of course, my children were grown when I got D so that was possible for me.
I have enjoyed my independence and freedom and I was lucky to find a man who allows me all the freedom and independence I want - doesn't crowd me or try to control me. He just enhances the wonderful life I already have.