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User Topic: Another D-Day???
sparkle09
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I went home for lunch today and WH was on his phone, his work computer was open so I decided to go through his emails. For some weird reason old emails that were not there before popped up. I am talking ab 2007. I found an email between him and affair partner,

AP- Pretty please suga with whipped cream and a cherry on top.

WH- I don't like cherries

From what I knew the sexual innuendos didn't start until 2011 when the PA started. Uhmm is this email not totally sexually charges? WH says I'm overreacting and nothing happened until 2011. I am livid beyond livid he is acting like its no big deal!

I told him to leave...pack it all up and go. I have been in limbo but I feel like this is going to send me over the edge to D.

[This message edited by sparkle09 at 3:17 PM, February 28th (Friday)]


Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker

Posts: 112 | Registered: Jan 2014
deena04
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Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Trust your gut! Sexual comments like that starting then coupled with his reaction could speak volumes. Not saying for sure, but investigate and listen to yourself...sorry this crap sucks!


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 944 | Registered: Dec 2013
RipsInMyChest
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Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why does he still have these old emails? It is NOT acceptable to keep them!

So sorry you are going thru this. There is definitely sexual innuendo in the "cherry" talk.....


Me: BW 41
FWH 41
Together 21 yrs, M 18, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Used condom, got chlamydia anyway.

His betrayal of me was not because I didn't shine brightly enough, but because he chose to put on blinders.


Posts: 256 | Registered: Oct 2013
RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Email from 2007 ~ a bit too "friendly"

2011 when the PA started
~ doubtful given the 2007 email.

4+ years until that "friendship" turned PA? I do not believe for one minute that your WH has been truthful.

Why does he have that email?

[This message edited by RidingHealingRd at 4:03 PM, February 28th (Friday)]


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 3.5 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


Posts: 2109 | Registered: Nov 2011
sparkle09
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Default  Posted: 4:24 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Exactly! Its disgusting to think when we were engaged to be married this was going on.


Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker

Posts: 112 | Registered: Jan 2014
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I posted in your punishing ws thread that your husband appeared to be still foggy and not ready to r.

Again, I believe you should implement the 180. I fear there is more you have not uncovered.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3800 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So you've decided to separate? I'm sorry.

(((((hugs)))))


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1893 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
sparkle09
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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, February 28th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't know how I missed this but 2 people were copied on email. He said she was asking for a favor saying that and he was being sarcastic with his reply. Also said he would take a lie detector test to "prove" it didn't start until 2011.

[This message edited by sparkle09 at 6:45 PM, February 28th (Friday)]


Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker

Posts: 112 | Registered: Jan 2014
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