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User Topic: Next--what do you like or admire in your spouse?
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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is not judgmental, even when he has every right to be
he is sensitive
he loves nature
He is a huge animal lover
he is a wonderful father
he is an incredibly hard worker

One of the things I admire about him post Affair is his bravery; He has fought against being vulnerable to emotions for his entire life and opposed to therapy, but since the affair he has jumped head first into the process of facing this issue and opening himself up to feeling, sharing his own and hearing other's emotions as well.

BW: 44 Me
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11

Posts: 641 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
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Member # 25395
Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His creativity and intelligence.
His ability to make and realize goals for himself.
His relationship with our daughter.
His sense of humour.
His love for his family.

Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.

Posts: 1675 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: not toronto anymore
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This was actually my ic homework that I have not done yet so here it goes. I love his sense of humor, his creativity, his attention to details now, his intelligence, and his ability to have a conversation with anyone.
Before the A I would've listed confidence, but I have learned that that is one thing he didn't and doesnt have unfortunately.

Posts: 278 | Registered: Sep 2012
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Member # 40055
Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His brilliant mind, his sense of humor (most of the time), and his smile.

BW: 49; SLAWH: 46; M: 23 yrs
DD#1--11/30/12 (prostitute #1)
DD#2--1/29/13 (AP, escorts #1 & #2)
DD#3--9/13 (trolling MILF site)
DD#4--10/8/13 (EA with AP cont'd)
DD: 20; DD: 18; DS: 16; DS: 14
PS: I've NEVER NOT edited my posts

Posts: 459 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
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Member # 42105
Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I admire the way he has been willing to do things to heal this relationship that are not his cup of tea; IC, MC, reading book after book about affairs, expressing his negative emotions, and having the courage to admit to some personal issues he has help on to our entire marriage.

I appreciate that when I fall into one of the "bad" places(and it happens fairly often) he finds the strength and patience to pull me out.

I love that I can count on him to make good decisions for us and our family. I have learned that while I do NOT trust him in some ways, I do in others. I trust his judgement wrt our kids, our home, and our finances. We make almost all our decisions together, but if we didn't, I could trust him to do a good job.

Me: BW 46
Him: WH 42
3 month EA and PA w/a mutual friend
DDay 09/20/2013
Married over 20 years
DS 26, DS, 19 DD, 18
Currently in R

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