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User Topic: Help! How do you remove a deadbeat off lease
idkam
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our new receptionist is in a pickle... She's leasing a home with her now Ex who is Satan himself... He emotionally abuses her in the hopes that this will make her leave so another one of his skanks can move in...the lease isn't up until Aug... This guy doesnt have a job but receives unemployment benefits....he's on probation and drinks like a sailor...she sleeps on the sofa and he sleeps in the bedroom, he comes in 2-3 in the mirning tries to have sex with her.... Girls are calling her house at odd hours of the night....

What are her right?


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
Lucky2HaveMe
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is his name on the lease? If so, I'm not sure she can do anything - the landlord would have to do a legal eviction.

If he is not on the lease, she could probably talk to the landlord and pay for the locks to be changed and move his stuff to a storage locker?

No one should have to live like that. I hope she finds a solution.


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idkam
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thx lucky... Sadly yes he's on the lease.... This girl has been through alot with this deadbeat... They have been togethet off and on for over 15 yrs....he's not a good person... I just talked to her and she said he is listed as a sex offender, she helped to get him out of jail on a 100.000 bond.... None of her family knows any of this... I told her she has to walk away and let it go....she dosnt want to move out because she put so much into the house.... I told her peace of mind is worth any material possessions..(they rent this house 4/bdrooms $750)....

She feels that she has to protect him for some reason... I told her she has to figure out why she feels like she has protect him.., he's not her child and he doesnt protect her....

They went to one of his cousins house on Sat and two of his girlfriends were there... Its like they ambushed her... Sad thing is he knew the women were going to be there.... Messy dysfunctional family/crazy...


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
idkam
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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thx lucky... Sadly yes he's on the lease.... This girl has been through alot with this deadbeat... They have been togethet off and on for over 15 yrs....he's not a good person... I just talked to her and she said he is listed as a sex offender, she helped to get him out of jail on a 100.000 bond.... None of her family knows any of this... I told her she has to walk away and let it go....she dosnt want to move out because she put so much into the house.... I told her peace of mind is worth any material possessions..(they rent this house 4/bdrooms $750)....

She feels that she has to protect him for some reason... I told her she has to figure out why she feels like she has protect him.., he's not her child and he doesnt protect her....

They went to one of his cousins house on Sat and two of his girlfriends were there... Its like they ambushed her... Sad thing is he knew the women were going to be there.... Messy dysfunctional family/crazy...


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he comes in 2-3 in the mirning tries to have sex with her....

If she's telling him no, next time she should call the police and take out an RO.
While it won't get him off the lease, it will get him out of the house.
The length of the RO might buy her enough time for the current lease to run out, then she can sign a new one in her name only. She could also have the locks changed (safety issue).

When I kicked my ex out, I did just that (minus the RO, that is). New lease had only the kids and me on it.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 10:45 AM, March 3rd (Monday)]


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Posts: 6526 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If it has 4 bedrooms, why is she sleeping on the couch?


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If it has 4 bedrooms, why is she sleeping on the couch?
Good catch!

Also, if she's hell bent on protecting him, it is unlikely that she'll act on anything to get rid of him until she's reached her tipping point.
I hope you dont get too invested in her drama.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 11:23 AM, March 3rd (Monday)]


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6526 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
idkam
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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thx guys...

I didnt think the other bedrooms were furnished thats the reason she sleeps on the couch...i believe she told me she felt safe and she could hear him when he cones into the house.... I will mention to her about getting a restraining order....

Gaby: i'm trying not to invest any energy in her drama but i cant but feel like there is something i could do.... On the other hand she has been dealing with this guy for so long that she may feel like all of this is normal....she said to me her self esteem must be really low for her to allow him to disrespect and treat her that way.., i said yes and you are the only one that can change it....

She doesnt have any place to go... Her sister and 3 kids live with her mom... Her daughter is gay and she (the receptionist) hasnt come to terms with her lifestyle yet.....

Its alot.... He even called her s Biotch in front of his teenage girls... Then he started talking about her gay daughter and telling her she's the reason her daughter is that way...


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
persevere
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Default  Posted: 1:05 AM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Her first step has to be a plan for herself - where will she go if she walks away?

Then she can worry about the rest.

I would also advise calling the police if he ever forces or even attempts any forced sexual contact - it's called sexual assault and it is absolutely not okay in any circumstance.

If she really wants out of this she has to start enforcing all of her boundaries.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4607 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
idkam
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

True Persevere..... She got home last night from school and the gas was turned off... It was 32 degrees here in Houston last night.... She saw the disconnection notice on the table which means he was there when the gas people got there.... He politely grabbed his clothes, tooth brush and whatever else and asked someone to pick him up....he turned off his phone....she called his mother snd told her whst happened....

I may be wrong but i think shes waiting for me to offer her money.... I told her we werent getting the house after all so She knows that I/we had money for closing.... I dont knowi could be wrong though but i get that feeling when i talk to her....

I hate to disappoint her and say no because i dont loan anybody money....


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
idkam
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, March 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, she spoke with the landlord who said the only way to evict him is if he is selling drugs out of the house or anything illegal.... She is screwed royally.... The deadbeat told her that he is not paying rent and that he needs the money he paid to have the gas turned back on ... He has given her a new name...."Bitch".... he says F you bitch....Bitch i'm not paying anything....Bitch I'm sick of you....so she has to vome up with rent money plus she her account was over drawn by $300 so she short money to pay rent.... She had to over draft her acct again.... Plus she owes the dealership $500 for the new truck she's buying....


People come into your life for a Reason, Season or a Lifetime..
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Posts: 1801 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, March 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Plus she owes the dealership $500 for the new truck she's buying....

if she hasn't bought it yet, then i suggest she not buy it now.

She needs to call the utility company and find out if they have an assistance fund or if there is a group in her area where she can get assistance.


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New online find 6/19/14 - shit

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