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User Topic: Am I really quick tempered?
Cabrona
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If I tell someone i do not like something or do not agree with it, if they continue to ask or lecture me again another time, and again I tell them NO THANK YOU, or that is not the way I want to do something, i get kind of annoyed, but if they come back again a third time I often EXPLODE.

Is this abnormally impatient? My dad is like this, and I learned not to ask him something 3 X, and now I realize I am the same.


"The truth is, everybody is going to hurt you... you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for." óBob Marley

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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, quick tempered would be exploding the first time you told them no.
But, you don't need to let others make you so upset it's not good for your body, blood pressure, etc. Not sure of the situation, but walking away when someone is talking for the third time about something you have politely explained before was not open for discussion, that sends your point across just as well.
Plus, you don't get worked up over stupidity.
Life is too short to waste that kind of energy on negativity. Much rather use the energy constructively or doing something I enjoy.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you're exploding frequently, then yes, there's an issue. You should be able to communicate and get your point across without exploding, even if it's the 3rd time someone asks you the same thing, imo.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ergh! I have a person in my life (my cousin's ex-wife) that is one of those people who simply *will not* take no for an answer. She's remained close to our whole family, and she has many very good qualities, which is the only reason I stay in touch with her, but she can be a damned bulldog about getting her way.

I've blown up on her a couple of times in the past few years. So has my daughter. Every time it was because we were pushed WAY beyond our boundaries and she just wouldn't let up.

I've found that if I just get quiet, look her in the eye, and say "what part of NO don't you understand", that she will finally get it. I know it sounds kind of rude, but it's the only way to get through her "me, me, ME!!!" attitude.

Anyway......if someone has pushed your buttons 3X, I think they should expect an ass chewing.


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
time2grow
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, March 3rd (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For me, "No", is a complete sentence.

The first time (rarely the second) I say it, is the time for a discussion if they feel I'm being unreasonable and we need to compromise.

The 3rd time I kick them to the curb. I don't need that crap in my life.

[This message edited by time2grow at 7:54 PM, March 3rd (Monday)]


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