As for the pain, I still get knocked upside the head with it and my heart actually physically hurts.... I try not to go there, but at those times it still strikes me with what has happened and what is forever part of my life and our marriage...then I realize perspective is everything and I can make it mean to my life and ours by how I wish to view it...brain and feelings don't always match...still processing it all...
[This message edited by morethantrying at 7:02 PM, March 3rd (Monday)]
I'm a year out from first DDay, a month out from such huge TT that it amounted to a second DDay.
I know exactly what you mean about your heart physically hurting. It's worse than any heartache I've ever had. It's a terribly deep, physical pain. So sorry for your pain.
such conflicting feelings about some unexpected, hurtful event which brought about something much better..
^^ so true!
I still cry nearly on a daily basis.....
His betrayal of me was not because I didn't shine brightly enough, but because he chose to put on blinders.
No doubt a topic much debated around here over time.
At the stage of one year, do you think examining more cognitive behaviour exercises might be useful now, even though it might not have been before? Things like re-directing thoughts, imagining a stop sign when you drift toward thoughts of the affair?
I've heard them all, but really only have made half-hearted attempts. Hopefully, some day I'll have the energy to work on that type of thing.