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User Topic: Actually, I'm getting there
Foxyfox
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe it's just me, but this morning, like a lot of mornings lately, I woke up feeling grateful. Grateful that I love someone that loves me, even though he's far from perfect. Grateful that I've had enough challenges in my life to know myself well enough to know that I can handle the really hard things. And grateful that I make a choice everyday to see that even though people are flawed and they make terrible mistakes, and they hurt other people deeply sometimes, everyone is doing the best they can. I'm throwing judgement in the trash, and although I'll continue to have really hard days like yesterday once in a while, I'll keep myself sweet (not bitter), and I won't lose faith that we need the dark times in order to recognize the sunshine.


forgive as deeply as you love

Posts: 9 | Registered: Mar 2014
Morhurt
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's so great, what an empowering feeling!


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 919 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
veronique12
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love it, foxy. Those mornings where you can feel some joy and gratitude are so special, aren't they?


BW: me (38)
WH: 43
OW: false "friend"
D-Day: 11/29/13 (4 month EA discovered); 12/19/13 (discovered was also PA); TT thru 2/14
Married: 2001; Together for nearly 20 years
2 beautiful young kids

Posts: 494 | Registered: Jan 2014
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank God for a positive post, and I am glad to hear about your moment of Zen!


me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is more like a mental break than a relationship.

I edit, therefore I am.


Posts: 1949 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
awoel88
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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Its posts like this that really give me hope that it might eventually get a little better. Thanks for sharing your positive outlook! :)


Me - 26, BS
Him - 37, WS
1 PA for 3 months, multiple EAs
Dday - Nov 8th 2013
Married 06/2012
2 dd's - 2yrs and 2mos
Attempting R

Posts: 28 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Canada
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17305 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Crushed15Feb13
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, March 4th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That was so well-said, Foxy. Good for you! And thanks for sharing!


Me: BH, 54
Her: WW, 54 4 yr LTA
Married 31 yrs, 2 college age boys
DDay #1: 15Feb13 - LTA 2008-2013
DDay #2: 27Jan14 - ONS, same AP 2007 - turns out it was a 5 yr LTA
Trying to understand

Posts: 242 | Registered: Mar 2013
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