In general, what people are interested in talking about in regards to other people says a lot about them. My guess is that it has all died down and they are on to the next thing. If anything they feel compassion and think your WS is an idiot.
In my case, OW's first reaction to finding out that I found out was "Why did you tell her? I am worried about my reputation." She wasn't concerned about the kids, or my WH's reputation or anything else but her own rep.
As far as what anyone thinks of ME? I don't give a crap bc I know for certain I have done nothing wrong. That is all on them! They made their bed…they can lie in it. Should have thought about that before!!!!
About a week or so after DD, my SAWH said to me, "_____ and I are very grateful that you haven't told anyone about it." WTF? That incensed me! One of my friends asked me why in the world am I protecting her. I think it was because I just wanted it all to go away and I think that if I broke the news, it would fan the flames. Also my husband indicated that OW had advocated on his behalf to his benefit financially in the company so she did not want her reputation damaged. In retrospect I wish I had spilled the beans. They don't work together directly…she works for a company in which he is involved. It's not like his investment paid off anyway. Maybe it will at some point. Who knows.
My husband has switched jobs in a sense in an effort to avoid her, and anyone who may know about it. Most of her friends are low life slutty bar working girls anyway or douchey guys so they will go away at some point. It's been almost a year, I am sure it's died down by now and really, people don't think about you NEARLY as much as you think they do. You really aren't that interesting (of course we posters at SI think you are fabulous and very interesting).