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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Most of the acute stuff was over in about 3 months for me, but I still have digestive issues 9 months out.

me - BS (40s)
DDay - June 2013, A was 2+ months, EA then PA
In MC & Reconciling
An affair is a personal crisis, not a relationship.

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Posts: 2058 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm still in the midst of physical symptoms. Lost 13 pounds in the last 9 days (even though I'm eating), my skin is breaking out (I've always had perfect skin), I'm having panic episodes (when I think about WH talking to OW), my hands shake all the time, I get a dull ringing in my ears and dizziness at random times, my stomach churns most of the time, and it's hard to focus for more than a few minutes unless I'm doing something mindless like playing a game on my phone. It really sucks, but I'm hoping some of these things will go away soon.

Me: BS
Him: WH (3 month OEA)
Known each other all our lives, Together 5.5 yrs, Married 4 yrs.
D-day: 3/8/14
Separated 3/8/14 and currently seeking IC

Posts: 56 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, March 31st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My hands shake every day. My eye twitches. My right leg bounces. I have diarrhea quite often. I don't always eat. I have thrown up. I had a period of about the first 3 months with a dull headache (probably dehydration from crying). My expression must be awful because people keep asking me if I am ok.

"My heart was broken and my head was just barely inhabitable. " - Anne Lamont

Posts: 128 | Registered: Feb 2014
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Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't believe someone else has experienced the cell phone buzzing! I have that sometimes too!

It took me about ten months to feel a bit normal again, and that was with meds. My WH had a two year affair so I don't know if the length changes how long you feel out of sorts.
He broke NC about two weeks ago and within three days of me finding out I woke up in excruciating pain and could not move my back. I've been to the chiropractor every other day and they're working on getting my back into better shape. It turned out I had two herniated disks. I think the stress from what my husband did just finally sent it all over the edge. Yay.

Me: BS 39
Him: WH 41
2 Kids
D-Day: 2/3/13
Broke NC 3/14
Very skeptically in R for now...

Posts: 269 | Registered: Mar 2013
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

well this is probably going to sound so morbid to some. BUT... I live in the country, outside of one of the little towns is a small country church tucked into a grove of trees and across the little country road is a graveyard. There is a place to park there, and I usually park the car and get out and walk in the cemetary. It calms my nerves because it's quite and it's out in the middle of nowhere, so if I want to scream at the top of my lungs, I can do that without anyone worrying. the anxiety attacks that I was having, have somewhat lessened since I have been going to be by myself. Time heals all wounds I have heard... I guess we shall see.

Posts: 2 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Ohio
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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow reading all the replies I cannot believe how we can all have the same symptoms. If it wasn't for this site I would never know, I thought it was only me. Headache, crazy dreams, waking up 3+ times at night all sweaty. Mine lasted a month

Posts: 137 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Los Angeles
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Default  Posted: 12:20 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The worst of mine lasted about two months and it was some awful stuff. Some of it included extreme forgetfulness, confusion, zero appetite, no sleep, trembling, eye twitching, bad stomach issues,etc. But by far the worst was what ran constantly through my head non-stop every day from the moment I woke up until I finally fell to sleep each night. I am doing much better now thank goodness eleven months after D-day. Still have some anxiety problems from time to time but it is nothing I can not handle.

Posts: 257 | Registered: Oct 2013
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, April 1st (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm just over a week from DDay 2, and all the physical stuff is back. Some of it even seems worse. Inability to sleep, general lack of concentration, loss of appetite, nausea, anxiety, panic attacks (thankfully not as bad as the first one I ever had, 2 days after DDay 1), that leg bounce thing, and headaches. I don't remember how long it lasted last time, I just want it to go away.

DDays - 1/26/2013 | 3/23/14
Divorced 7/10/2014

Posts: 84 | Registered: May 2013 | From: TX
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Default  Posted: 11:49 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Had 2 full blown panic attack, it was scary. dry mouth, black-out, no appetite, still crying. headaches, sleep less, I think I'm gonna go crazy. Reading some posts on this site help a lot knowing I'm not alone on this. Things will get better for us, I know.

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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, April 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

While it's not fun for any of us, it is comforting to know that we are all experiencing similar things - that we are not crazy after all.

I'm a little over a month since my dday and I've just started experiencing panic attacks over the past two weeks. I also wake up two to three times a night in a terror and when I am sleeping, it's usually nightmares. I'm afraid to go to sleep and I'm afraid to wake up. I have lost 20 pounds since dday and I also experience times of physical pains - around my heart and in my stomach. I get tremors at times too.

I'm trying to overcome it on my own, but I can't take this not sleeping for much longer. Unfortunately, I am trying alcohol to help me stay asleep. I don't want to become dependent on it but I also don't want to become dependent on pills either.

I feel for everyone here. It sucks that any of us have to experience this hell on earth.

Me - 42
WH - 40
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Headed towards Divorce

Posts: 332 | Registered: Mar 2014
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, April 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have lost 55 pounds since D-day six months ago. I needed to lose the weight, but this wasn't the way I wanted to go about it.

I have PTSD from a traumatic childhood so I have always had the nightmares, trouble sleeping, and panic attacks, but this has surprisingly gotten better the more I stand up for myself in all areas of my life. I am still extremely hypervigilent, but my IC tells me that this is normal with all I've been through.

I still go days before I realize that I haven't eaten. I have noticed that I am getting a furrow between my brows and I've been thinking about getting botox for it.

BW (me): 41 WH (him): 49
Married 18 years. SD: 26 from his 1st. M. DS: 21 from 1st M. DD: 17 (autistic)
D-day: 10/4/13 with ongoing TT (last TT was 10/2/14).
2 OC with 2 different OW. 15 year A with my sister.

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