The second woman? I do not know her ways but she proved to be a user. She is not important to me. No feelings towards her whatsoever.
She was my friend once and her life is a sad broken story now.
I feel bad for her inability to heal, face her issues and grow past the A and the horrible choices she has made since.
Forgiveness for me doesn't mean we will be friends again, it means I let her go. It doesn't say her actions were ok, it doesn't mean it erases all the hurt she caused me.
She didn't ask for forgiveness, but in my world I would say she doesn't have to. It's mine to give and I will give it when and if I am comfortable.
I pray for her, her kids, her ex-husband. I hope one day she picks herself up.
The woman she has become wasn't the blue-print that was made of her...it changed over the years.
She could get it back and I hope one day she does.
I believe we all deserve to heal and find our own way.
One day it could be me in need of forgiveness and hopefully I will be granted the same gift.
For me to forgive I need 3 things: an admission of guilt, sincere remorse, and the desire to be forgiven....She has shown none of these things, and I found out recently from a pastor that she had a previous affair with another older married man that her GF doesn't know about, so I'm guessing she isn't terribly remorseful about cheating with my H and lying to me.
I hope she rots in hell, and I hope she lives a very long, painful, unhappy life filled with one disaster after another until then.
[This message edited by Shayna71 at 12:56 PM, March 11th (Tuesday)]