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User Topic: will never forgive AP
MammaMia
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I do not forgive the bimbo because this is her hobby and main occupation: going after men. She does not discriminate: young, old, rich, poor, married, single alive, half dead, you name it. I am angry with her and many times I plot revenge still. I want to hurt her where it hurts her the most: to have her kicked out of their social club. That will kill her, really. That's the centerpiece of her life and her constant supply of men
Yes, I want to find a way to get her kicked out for life. That will hurt her more than anything else. But it is easier said than done...

The second woman? I do not know her ways but she proved to be a user. She is not important to me. No feelings towards her whatsoever.



And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive.But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”

Posts: 854 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Somewhere in the South
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have forgiven the OW.

She was my friend once and her life is a sad broken story now.

I feel bad for her inability to heal, face her issues and grow past the A and the horrible choices she has made since.

Forgiveness for me doesn't mean we will be friends again, it means I let her go. It doesn't say her actions were ok, it doesn't mean it erases all the hurt she caused me.

She didn't ask for forgiveness, but in my world I would say she doesn't have to. It's mine to give and I will give it when and if I am comfortable.

I pray for her, her kids, her ex-husband. I hope one day she picks herself up.

The woman she has become wasn't the blue-print that was made of her...it changed over the years.

She could get it back and I hope one day she does.

I believe we all deserve to heal and find our own way.

One day it could be me in need of forgiveness and hopefully I will be granted the same gift.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaďs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3788 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Shayna71
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No forgiveness. Hate the C. She and her Girlfriend were recent friends of ours...she and I were closer, and her girlfriend and my H were closer. Several times throughout the 3 month affair I was suspicious. Caught the texting when things had JUST started. H convinced I was crazy. She kept talking to me. IMing on FB, talking to my D, etc. After DD, he was remorseful and was totally NC. She stalked him 2 to 3 times a week at my daughters ball games, every time he went to the bathroom or out of the gym. I refused to go lest it seem like I was babysitting. She got one of her friends to call him and try to talk him into conversing with her. She has NEVER apologized to me (My husband spent two hours apologizing to her girlfriend)I have no doubt that she still wants him, and would do whatever she could to still get him, even though her girlfriend has explained to her how awful the fallout in our house for us and our children was.

For me to forgive I need 3 things: an admission of guilt, sincere remorse, and the desire to be forgiven....She has shown none of these things, and I found out recently from a pastor that she had a previous affair with another older married man that her GF doesn't know about, so I'm guessing she isn't terribly remorseful about cheating with my H and lying to me.

I hope she rots in hell, and I hope she lives a very long, painful, unhappy life filled with one disaster after another until then.

[This message edited by Shayna71 at 12:56 PM, March 11th (Tuesday)]


Me: BW 46
Him: WH 42
3 month EA and PA w/a mutual friend
DDay 09/20/2013
Married over 20 years
DS 26, DS, 19 DD, 18
Currently in R

Posts: 122 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Indiana
TXMommy
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Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nope, I will never forgive her. Ever, she is my H's ex, who cheated on him, then he cheated on me with her. She wanted him to leave me, our family, and be with her. She was/is married with children, as well. She didn't give a darn about anyone but herself. Why should I forgive her for trying to destroy my family? No. Never,


ME - BS - 33
WH - 30
Married 9 years, together 11
2 kids: D8, S2
D-Day: June 10th, 2010
Trudging through R.

Posts: 593 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: TX
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