Mine did, but only when he thought he was caught. (He wasn't. And he had lied when I asked point blank 2-3 times.)
I edit, therefore I am.
I knew in my gut, and until I had proof, cold hard evidence, I was never going to get a confession.
When I confronted, I got immediate truth of the situation, and a willingness to work toward R. IF he had been waivering in any way, or not sure if he wanted to stay with me, I would have been done right then.
Of course he still broke NC multiple times until he defogged.
But I say a spouse that blames other, denies, or him haws about what they want when confronted doesn't deserve the gift of R.
I guess if I'd been the one to catch them, she'd be XWW instead of fWW.
[This message edited by toomanyregrets at 3:14 PM, March 6th (Thursday)]
"Affairs are not mistakes, they are a series of deliberate choices." - CrappyLife
If he had confessed sure it would have been different, but he just wasn't there. He was so deep in the fog at that time that he insisted that OW (that "pal" of mine) felt empathy for me. Our MC couldn't contain himself when he heard that one and rolled his eyes and said "oh please."
Whether A was revealed bc of confession or bc it was unearthed by the BS, how the WS reacts in the days and weeks following is so important. A WS acting like a jackass inflicts so many more injuries. A sensitive and caring WS softens the blow and helps start the healing much earlier.
A confession can be just another slap in the face in my experience.