This thread is making me want to go find some random guy and see how they kiss. Or maybe a poll of several random guys...
<<< ---French kiss, anyone??
I'm kidding. Mostly. Sort of. Maybe.
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin
However, with my SO, we sneak in the good kind of kisses whenever we can, and do pecks when we have to, ya know, 'cause we're all adult-like and have to behave in public. Seriously, both SO and I have been through divorces, and it's important to both of us that we make, and keep, our relationship a priority. We "behave" when we have to, but one of the things we both learned is to enjoy the moment, and each other. And really, it's not like we're groping each other in public. We love each other, and it really shows when we're together, that's all.
Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect
I'm just not a big PDA person. Nothing wrong with it, just not me.
XH and I haven't kissed the way I'd like in years and years (even before A).
I've mentioned it to him but to no avail.
Married 2.5 years
Afterwards it seems as if he had been listening, he was just too selfish to work on it. Now we have hello, goodbye, goodnight and anytime make out sessions. He has developed into an awesome kisser!
I believe that the difference is he has opened up, embraced intimacy and has seen how great giving and being connected can be.
But for the life of me I was unable to teach him that before.
Reading this thread, I've had a bit of a revelation. Not a big one, and it takes faith in believing part of what my WW told me, but it's something I've probably already knew.
Part of it leads into one of the reasons I've hated myself. Things I was changing. I've always liked long kissing, my issues made it so WW didn't. When she was with OM, that was all she really wanted she said. Was to make out. Of course, that led to more.
Now, I still like long kisses, my issues from before aren't there, but knowing that this is what got her started, I have to really fight my thoughts. I've tried to keep her eyes open, to make sure she knew who she was with. That doesn't help as he mentioned how much he loved her eyes, I used to do this as well . I think of how she kisses me now, which isn't much different from before and think it was due to him.
Now I am off for a bit to get the images out of my mind, that is enough dwelling for now.
Her- 43, a self-centered bitch concerned with no one but herself
DDay- July 13, 2013
Back off man- I'm a scientist!
~ Dr. Peter Venkman