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Mommato5
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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, March 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just read about working the 180. I am about three weeks post DDay. WS very remorseful. Am I supposed tobe working the 180?


Psalms 147:3
Married 19 years, 9 months and 1 day. The day my marriage died.
5 fabulous kids with tragically broken hearts

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yme32313
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, March 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Try it, it might help.


Me: 31
H: 55
Dated: Aug. 2003 M: Mar. 2013
Cheated: While dating

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SadInNC
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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, March 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What does your GUT instinct tell you?


BS/Me WH/Him

"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person


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BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, March 6th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd use it if you think he isn't being forthcoming and honest. If he isn't doing what you need him to do or if you aren't sure what you want.

If you feel he is committed to R then I wouldn't do the 180 but make sure you are watching his actions, not his words.


Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years

Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson

Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.


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Mommato5
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Default  Posted: 12:13 AM, March 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My gut says that some thingsbin the 180 make total sense. Yet ither things on the list seem like the opposite of what I should be doing. Making decisions can be quite the challenge these days. Willing to take whatever advice I can get!


Psalms 147:3
Married 19 years, 9 months and 1 day. The day my marriage died.
5 fabulous kids with tragically broken hearts

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lovehatelove
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Default  Posted: 1:49 AM, March 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mommato5

Yet other things on the list seem like the opposite of what I should be doing.

I agree with this too!!


DDay ~ 2/23/13

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