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User Topic: Only I can screw up going into manhattan to avoid my husband
Sleepy312
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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, March 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Left the hell hole burb for the weekend to get away from my husband so I take the train into the city with the kids. We are coming out if penny station at 5:15 rush hour and who do we see????? My husband. I was so shocked pusses and couldn't get away fast enough.

Seriously this shit only happens to me. I can't escape him in a city if millions.


Me 41
Dh 40
Married 11...he forgot our anniversary among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.

Together 17 years
Two great kids.

He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother is going to


Posts: 507 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Nj
4everfaithful83
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Default  Posted: 6:12 PM, March 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, that is just crazy! What are the chances!?


Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

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WBF: 27
Together 7 years
1 doggie
DDay: June 24, 2013
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Posts: 565 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
TheBestMe
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, March 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Sleepy...I'm originally a NJ girl. I work in NYC so I know what you mean. What are the chances of seeing him at Penn St at rush hour?

Something similar happened to me. I was trying to slip away and hide out at my parents in NJ via the Belt Parkway in Brooklyn/Queens. Who is going in the opposite direction and spots me? You guessed it. I was wondering what he was doing on that road when I saw him. I now know that WH was rushing home from OW.


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Status: Working towards friendship
D Day #1 - 2007 My gut told me
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LTA 7 years

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Posts: 448 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Inner Peace
norabird
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, March 7th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Crazy!

Don't let it put a damper on your weekend though. Have fun!!!


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
stronger08
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Default  Posted: 1:18 AM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear ya. I used to work on W.33rd & 6th. WW and OM would use the bed bug infested Hotel Penn for their trysts. Tens of thousands of hotels/motels in the NYC area and they choose the block I worked on. She claimed coincidence, I think not. I had to pass that place for years on my way to and from work and get my daily reminder/trigger. Thank God my firm eventually moved to Jersey City.


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Sleepy312
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can attest to Hotel Pennsylvania being a flea bag. I stayed there back in my 20s while in town for a trade show. Who in their right mind would choose that place for secret trysts?!?!

I must say I have managed to not see him again despite him being in his office all day today, and I've texted pictures all day long of the fun stuff we are doing with the kids.

My daughter's friend from Chicago chose to come to NYC for her birthday to visit my kids. We've done all the touristy things all day long, and I've made sure my husband realizes what he is missing because of his bad choices. He has fully realized what he will be losing. I'm not sure if he truly thinks I will leave or not, but he knows I'm seriously considering it.


Me 41
Dh 40
Married 11...he forgot our anniversary among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.

Together 17 years
Two great kids.

He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother is going to


Posts: 507 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Nj
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wouldn't send him any pictures of your weekend. ... let him feel what it is like to live in the silence without his family. ....


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Posts: 3845 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think it was a coincidence, and I for sure wouldn't be sending him pictures. Radio silence, Hon!


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Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
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Together 20 years
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Posts: 9815 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
absolut
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Default  Posted: 5:08 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would think I was being followed.

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Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto on the thinking you were followed. Can you be sure he wasn't stalking you?

As for coincidences like that:
We live two hours from my old midwife, but she's who I wanted to go to to get tested after d-day. So my sister, in her one act of support, came with me and watched the kids while I was tested.

Heading back, DS suddenly shouted "isn't that Daddy's car."
I looked and see what looks like MrH's blue car with <college> and I think USMC sticker on the back heading off on an exit. I think I see a blond woman driving and try to follow but can't (thankfully). You're not in your right mind those early days...I sure wasn't if I tried to cut across traffic with my kids in the car to follow her.

This is DC beltway rush hour traffic. Given the one sticker I saw and the fact that it was xOw2's exit, I'm pretty sure it was her. MrH was in Iraq and I had just learned he leant her his car while he was gone. He told me it was in long term storage.

DS mentioned it a couple of years later. Remember when we were with auntie and saw a woman driving daddy's car.

It just looked like his car sweetie.

Maybe.

[This message edited by Holly-Isis at 5:46 PM, March 8th (Saturday)]


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BtraydWife
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is that the station he normally uses? Are you sure you didn't end up there on purpose?

I agree-cut off the info chain to him. No more pictures.

I know you feel it's showing him what he's missing but really it's you bargaining. Trying to prove to him that he will regret it if you divorce. Look what you'll miss.

I did the same thing and I told myself it wasn't bargaining, but it was. I could see that later and felt foolish. So just stop.


Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

[This message edited by BtraydWife at 7:19 PM, March 8th (Saturday)]


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Posts: 1862 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: United States
Sleepy312
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He does go in and out if penny station daily so that's not unususual but running into him at the top of the main escalator out if penn was odd.

If divorce is in the future it will be initiated by me. He's trying hard to fix this but he can't help but screw it all up. He was not invited to join us on any outing this weekend. I didn't even tell him where we were staying.

It's his problem he's working all weekend. He chose this job. I have no sympathy for him.


Me 41
Dh 40
Married 11...he forgot our anniversary among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.

Together 17 years
Two great kids.

He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother is going to


Posts: 507 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Nj
sidney2718
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sleepy312 wrote:
He does go in and out if penny station daily so that's not unususual but running into him at the top of the main escalator out if penn was odd.
If divorce is in the future it will be initiated by me. He's trying hard to fix this but he can't help but screw it all up. He was not invited to join us on any outing this weekend. I didn't even tell him where we were staying.

It isn't THAT surprising. If he was going to NY that same morning he probably took the same train that you did. Otherwise he'd not have been at Penn Station when you were.

It is still a bit strange, but if he was on your train, he had to be somewhere near you. Of course if he wasn't on your train, he must have magic shoes because you know that there is a major interval between suburban trains on weekends.


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