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DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG im so frustrated right now. Fws and I had the dumbest argument ever last night! I wish had a camera crew so I could just play back all of his arguments with him telling me how I dont care about him, im not there for him, or I dont support him. Its all bullshit. True, I may be a bitch from time to time because of a LOT of built up anger and frustration. Never once though have I not been there for him when he's needed me, never not supported his dreams (in fact did everything I could to push him towards them) and HE KNOWS I care about him more them ANYTHING! I think he just does this crap to avoid the actual issue.He says those things to try and take my mind off the subject at hand and go into a whole other argument. I just wish he could see what the hell he is doing...Then again im sure he'd say the same for me. I have every right to feel the way that I do because of the things hes done.

Im sure its very common for fws to throw a disagreement off topic to avoid the actual issue...but I hope im not alone here.




Posts: 270 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Where theres lots of southern HOEspitality
Ivyivy
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Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are not alone. I have been there and am still there depending on the day. I think it is how WS justify what they did in their own mind.


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DS - 11 and DD - 15

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DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is an email he just sent me..

"but just wanted to let you know im thinking about you and i love you more than i will ever be able to comprehend. im sorry about the hurtful things i said last night. please forgive me. hope you have a good day. love you"




Posts: 270 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Where theres lots of southern HOEspitality
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Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

but just wanted to let you know im thinking about you and i love you more than i will ever be able to comprehend

To quote my 13-year-old, "What an ass-wagon!"

Just try to comprehend it, arsehole. Just a little effort, that's all.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol I caught that too, When I first read it, I read it as..."more then you'll ever be able to comprehend"...

Makes maybe a little more sense that way.

I am happy though that he did take the time out to apologize the best he could comprehend...at least he realizes he was being an "ass-wagon"




Posts: 270 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Where theres lots of southern HOEspitality
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Two words: Nanny cam.

(No, not for revenge or I-toldja-so, so you can have a record of what your fights look like, so you can SEE what and how they work - so you can [maybe] repair the problems. Try very, very hard not to become "virtuous" in fighting once you have it. Remain who you were so you can *really* help yourself. It's not about him, not really.)


It is the gut-wrenching, down-to-your-soul honesty that helps so much. ~paraphrased from CancunCrushed
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal

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DTERMINED2SURVIV
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, March 8th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Exactly...I understand that it DOES take TWO people to correctly R. The cam will benefit both of us, if we choose to use it in a constructive manner!!

Im seriously thinking about looking into it....We just started CC and IC counseling, so hopefully that helps the communication and not so being defensive!




Posts: 270 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Where theres lots of southern HOEspitality
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