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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After I wrote my reply I just realized that you may not agree with me about facebook and social media. You may even use it yourself. I didn't want you to think I was trying to tell you what to do I was simply suggesting what I did.

I hope you find a slick way of throwing him under the bus. Maybe you should create another FB account with another women's picture and start poking him. Once he starts doing it back you can bust his ass and he can't deny it. By presenting it that way he'll never get wind that you have his password.

Me: BH 32years old DDay 4-29-13
Her: WW 33 years old
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves
By each let this be heard
Some do it with a bitter look
Some with a flattering word
The coward does it with a kiss
The brave man with a sword”

Posts: 622 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Houston, Texas
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He would have to accept a friend request from the fake account, but I was thinking the exact same thing. Then I thought better of it because that's just playing games and we are all too old for that.

Plain and simple, if you're tired of the bullshit, present him with the evidence and throw him out. Contrary to giving your daughter a stable home environment, his adolescent behavior is doing nothing but stressing you out. Continued worry and stress is not good for you. Children are a lot more perceptive than we give them credit for, unfortunately. Depending on how old she is and how much she knows, she may congratulate you for dumping the turd.

There's a difference between giving up and knowing when you've had enough.

Posts: 568 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: Somewhere Over The Rainbow
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shit has hit the fan. I confronted him about it and was told I'm making more out of it than what it is. No surprise there. I've told him I want his FB password (which he has now changed) or his account deleted, and access to his phone (which is always hidden). His reply, "I don't like people going through my shit." He knows where I stand.

I do use Facebook myself but have never had an inappropriate conversation with anyone. I even deleted a guy I went to high school with for making a post about looking for a friend with benefits. His profile said he was married so bye, bye.

So, now, I've got to "get my ducks in a row" and figure out what to do from here. Life hasn't been easy and I don't even have a car right now so that really is making it difficult. It's not going to be tomorrow, but I'm out. I'm done. Final straw.

BS (Me - 38)
WS (Husband - 42)
Married - 12 yrs; 17 yrs together
1 child (9)
Working on R

Posts: 154 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: Maine
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Go over to the D/S forum, you may not be able to do anything at this moment but reading may help you a bit to get some guidance.

Love yourself. You're worth it. Face your self. You need to do it.

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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No Facebook password, no acces to phone...because he doesn't like people going through his shit??...false R for sure.

What were the consequences for his continuing cheating? You need to put them into action.

FBS, been through the D marathon too.
Many D Days in April 2009
Multiple affairs, LTAs, and many OWs
Reconciled... There is hope! :)

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Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Are these women that he knows, or women that he doesn't know?

Doesn't matter- still inappropriate to message someone about "liking a good poke," as if there isn't some fairly obvious flirty subtext there. Gross. And I would be pissed.

Further- he is lying. I think that is really the heart of it right there- he knows what he is doing is inappropriate...because he feels the need to lie about it. If you were overreacting, and he was truly being innocent, and there was nothing going on, he wouldn't have felt the need to lie. Period.

I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."

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