Ok, so long story short, our friends J and A divorced. they have a child L who is still in diapers.
A is off her rocker and was cheating on J, they divorced and she tried to leave with L to the other side of the country with her new husband.
Well... in the documents, A was going to retain custodial custody after completing all the therapy and classes and stuff. She has, and wants to move to the other state....so she filed in court. J has blocked it.
Now, I have known L since L was 6 months old. L's a shy baby and not one to easily trust. L is now 3 and loves it our house. L plays with our kids very well and I have baby sat a few times.
About 2 weeks ago though, after an extremely poopy diaper, L refused to let me wipe the area. I mean, scratched, kicked, and ran with poop still there. I tried to shower L off, but at this point L was in hysterics and I really felt like I may be doing more harm then good and waited for J to pick her up. Telling him what happened. J said that it is a new development (very new considering she's never done it for me before) and that A also experiences this.
NOW though, that A has been blocked from going to the other state, A has called CPS saying that L said that J touched her. (first of all, L does not talk all that much, and second L is in the mimic stage.) Now, J can't see L without supervision and chances are now good that A will get full custody, J maybe charged with something, and L will be in another state with nobody familiar.
I asked L when I was changing the diaper if anyone touched. L agreed with everyone that I asked....I asked if J did, she said yes. I asked if A did, she said yes. I asked if DH (who has NEVER changed her diaper) she said yes.
I know J, and there is no way. DH manages sex offenders and he said there's no way.
So now, I told J I would be willing to give my statement of what happened when I changed her. But I am not sure how that works. Will I have to be interviewed by both lawyers? Will I just have to talk to CPS?
There is no love loss between A and us, but if I even for one second thought that J was messing with L, I would never support him. J has been a great father, has A almost all the time, and is over at our house 1-3 times a week.
Anyone else had to go through anything like that?