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MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Almost two years from D day and my divorce papers were finally stamped in the courts last Friday, now I have to wait one month and one day for it to be official, stupid out dated Aussie laws. Seriously you have to be separated for one year before you can apply for a divorce, then you have to wait one month and wait for itÖ ĎOne dayí for it to be official?? Blah, whatever.

Once I made up my mind it was over I thought the rest was just paper work, in my mind the marriage became obsolete on D day and I didnít need a rubber stamp to confirm that. I only bothered with the divorce because the guy Iím going out with didnít like the fact I was still married.

Turns out I was wrong, now the divorce is happening Iím actually really excited and I do feel different, in a very good, empowering way


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 470 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is empowering. Like taking back control of your destiny.

Welcome to part 2 of the your life.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7551 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
cayc
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have to D this asshole? He hasn't drowned at sea yet?

Seriously though, yay!


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3058 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 2:05 AM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you! It took me 19 months to get divorced here. 12 months & 1 day before you can get the paperwork signed, a month for x to send it back to me, then lodge to the courts and another 6 months to get a court date, then another month & one day for it to official.

Best thing I ever did though

Best of luck in your NB

[This message edited by Bluebird26 at 2:06 AM, March 10th (Monday)]


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1321 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
stronger08
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Default  Posted: 3:02 AM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The time it takes to D varies depending on where you live and other mitigating factors. It took me almost a year just to come to a mutual agreeable settlement. Then it took a couple of months for the exact wording to be correct. And even after all that it took almost 8 more months to get a judge to sign them. All in all I'd say I was in the process for about 2 years as well. But the good news is that its over and your free.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 7:32 AM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay for you, MyVoice! Congrats. I can't believe that much time has gone by!

That month (and a day) will go by quickly. The worst is over.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2270 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It does feel different. Can't really put my finger on exactly how, but it does. It's like the last link in the chain being broken.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Turns out I was wrong, now the divorce is happening Iím actually really excited and I do feel different, in a very good, empowering way

I absolutely feel different and it's fantastic!


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5533 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys, I can't believe how happy I am .



Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 470 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Edie
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Default  Posted: 5:11 AM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fabulous MV.


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5056 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
AussieMum
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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats MyVoice from a fellow Aussie!

The laws here are ridiculous, having to wait a full year to lodge paperwork and then the extra month and that all important ONE DAY lol.

My divorce hearing is on 2nd May - I figure I'll be in there for maybe 10 minutes?? (hope so). I can't wait. 1st D day was July 2012. This has been such a long process.

But YAY to being free of them!!


Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

Posts: 180 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 1:01 AM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow talk about timing AussieMum it was one month and one day on the 7th and I received my papers in the mail about an hour ago, yay I'm officially divorced... the end... full stop to that chapter in my life!

If one day before Dday you told me I would ever be divorced, I would have thought you insane.

If one day after Dday you told me I'd not only survive, but be happily divorced one day, I'd have thought you insane.

These days I'd stop and consider any strange foretelling of my life!

[This message edited by MyVoice at 1:03 AM, April 10th (Thursday)]


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 470 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
Edie
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Default  Posted: 1:13 AM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi MV

Congratulations finally., you are now a free woman.
How are the kids?


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

Posts: 5056 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: UK
MyVoice
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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Edie,thanks and how are you

My kids are doing well DS has just started his first year at Uni and DD just started year eleven, so is entering her serious senior years at school. I had a parent teacher night this week and her teachers are all impressed so I can relax about her schooling for once

DS see's his father perhaps every six weeks or so and DD hasn't seen him or spoken to him since November 2012, she will communicate with him via text but only when she wants money,and he gives her whatever she asks for. I approach this gently but I don't like her using her dad just for money, bad character on her part and I let her know that.

We are one happy little family, it's quite bizarre how life just rolls along.


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 470 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
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