I discussed this with WH, and he thought it would be helpful for both OW's BP and I.
When we met, he apologised for her behaviour and proceeded to tell me that I needed to be understanding towards her, because she's unwell.
He then told me that she was suffering from some mental health issues, and described my husband's condition to a T. She had told her BP that she was suffering from my husbands conditions, and that her A was not her fault because she was "sick"! This sicko actually had her BP believing that she suffered from ADHD and severe depression, and the A only happened because she was off her meds! (They had only been a couple for a few months at D-day). She told him that she had stopped taking her meds so that she could have a few drinks with her friends, and, without her realising, her condition had become out of control, and that my WH knew this and took advantage of it, and her. He also told me that after the A came out, her improvement was quick and simple; she was back to normal. I swear, you could have knocked me down with a feather! I felt sick that she could continue to lie so effortlessly, and this poor man believed her, and was supporting her through her "illness". Who would do that?
I gently explained to him that the things he was describing were actually my WH's issues, and that if she was really suffering from these things that she would be seeing a Psychiatrist, and having her meds regulated, and that her improvement wouldn't have been immediate. I felt so awful pulling the rug out from under him, but felt that he needed to hear the truth, he's heard enough lies to last a lifetime!
The only good thing that came out of our meeting was that he went home and confronted her, packed his bags, and left. I really don't blame him, I wouldn't stay either!
Unfortunately, she now blames him leaving on me aswell, although he didn't reveal who told him, she would've guessed. Just add it to the long list of all the bad things in her life that are my fault. God, I can't wait to move away from this bat-shit crazy bit@h!
Regardless, people like that are eternal victims. Nothing is ever their fault. And they will always think that it is never their fault that they end up alone
This sicko actually had her BP believing that she suffered from ADHD and severe depression, and the A only happened because she was off her meds!
Yeah, man, it never fails to piss me off when I hear waywards using mental conditions as excuses. As someone who has had unmedicated ADHD and depression my whole life, along with a small cocktail of other conditions, I would just like to report that I have never cheated. Never considered it, never wanted to do it, never did it.
The "condition" that causes cheating? Selfishness!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
I believe also that she does have a mental condition, and that she needs help, but StorybookGirl42 hit the nail on the head, in her mind, OW will always be a victim. I can't help that, but I can and will protect my family.
Pass, I couldn't agree more with your statement. It is selfishness that causes A's, not medical or mental conditions. WH never even tried to use being off his meds as an excuse; if he had, I would have walked.
It just amazes me the lengths some people will go to, just to avoid accountability for their actions. This woman's behaviour towards anybody who calls her out is astonishing, and makes my blood boil!