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User Topic: Is this family crazy mixed up or what??
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DGS, "5 and a half" (actually almost 6), is a Star Wars fanatic. He loves to play Lego Star Wars on Playstation and plays with his Star Wars Lego toys, religiously reads and studies his volumes of Star Wars Lego Encyclopedia and his Star Wars Dictionary of Lego Characters, and actively recruits and involves everyone he encounters in his imaginative character play. He also assumes others do not know as much about them as he does, so explains who they are in relation to each other.

He told me today that, "Grandma, I'm Anakin Skywalker, you're Padme (with an accent over the e), *brother* is Luke. So that means you are my wife and *brother* is our son; and Mommy and Daddy are Han Solo and Princess Leia, so they are boyfriend and girlfriend."

Wow! So, I'm M to one DGS and another DGS is our son! Well, at least Mommy and Daddy seem to have a more normal relationship! This was today, but other times and other days, there are other strange pairings. We all just roll with it.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can't tell you how devastated my DD was when she found out at age 3 that she couldn't marry her brother. Tears. For. Days.


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"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..little kids.. dontcha just luv'em!

'May the force be with you..grandma'

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Would it make you feel any better that I have a sister who is actually my cousin? And I have an uncle who is not only my cousin but is also very likely the offspring of my mom's brother and sister?

And on my dad's side of the family, he has 2 1st cousins who are sisters. L and P. P's son married L's granddaughter. The wedding was surreal. "Bride's side or Groom's?" "Yes."

True story.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 1:46 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@NIK, poor DD. That really can be devastating.

Thank you, smy. The boys would appreciate that!

Wow, HFSSC, that has us beat by far, but you do live in SC, after all......

I have known actual people IRL who fit some of these situations. We're just happy to have the boys interested in something that has them reading and using their imagination. Happy to play along and keep them doing things that aren't fighting or violent.


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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And I have an uncle who is not only my cousin but is also very likely the offspring of my mom's brother and sister
Um, pardon me? How does that happen?


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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And I have an uncle who is not only my cousin but is also very likely the offspring of my mom's brother and sister


Um, pardon me? How does that happen?

Well... my mom's older sister ran away from home at 17. Apparently, when she came back home she was either already pregnant or got pg very shortly thereafter. Her son was born illegitimate back in 1956ish. Then, when he was getting ready to start school, my grandmother decided he "needed a name" and basically just took him from his mother and adopted him. He had no memory of his early childhood. We all (me, siblings and cousins) knew who his mother really was, etc but he never knew until he was in his 40s. He said he always thought one of his sisters was really his mother, but he didn't know which one.

Then, about 6 months ago, my cousin/sister (her father was my mom's brother. He couldn't take care of her and she spent several years in a children's home before she came to live with us) dropped the bomb. Apparently, our grandmother told her in "strictest confidence" that my uncle/cousin was the product of my uncle (cousin/sister's father) raping my mom's older sister.

Not sure if it's true. But it would explain a lot of weird family stuff over the years. (yes, even weirder than what I've described here.)

Thus ends another episode of "I am my own grandpaw". Thanks for tuning in.


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Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the family 'tour', HFSSC. That really us

I have relatives in whose family, incest was a constant among the brothers and sisters. Also a family member whose two 'sisters' are actually his nieces, adopted by the grandparents who raised them. But in that case, everyone knew about it and that it was because the parents were totally screwed up and unable.

I have relatives on both sides who were 'unclaimed' as siblings, one because of taking a new identity due to military charges and the other because the mother was unmarried. We still have no idea if her husband and the father of the rest of her children was also father of the first. We always called both as aunt and uncle, but there were other adopted 'relatives' along the way, so it wasn't so strange. At least they kept them in the family. We found out about both when our parents passed away. Now we know that their children are also our cousins. The more, the merrier.


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We found out at my sister's bridal shower that she and her husband are related.

It's 2nd or 3rd cousins, but that was still enough to make us.


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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I always say that our family tree doesn't have enough branches.

That or we need chlorine in our gene pool.


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Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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Harriet
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wrote a transcript of a "conversation" between my kids when they were about 3 (son) and 4 (daughter):

D:I love you so much (S). I want to be with you forever. I want to marry you. Do you want to marry me?

S: I want a cheeseburger.


D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
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heartbroken0903
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Default  Posted: 11:45 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I vividly remember putting a white baking cloth on my head as a very young child and dancing around the kitchen with my brother saying that we were going to get married.

I also remember my brother as a little boy once trying to French kiss my mother goodnight because that's how they kissed on TV.

[This message edited by heartbroken0903 at 11:45 PM, March 13th (Thursday)]


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

Remarried.


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thebighurt
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Concerned  Posted: 7:21 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice time to find that out, Williesmom. All in the family.

@HFSSC, It may take more than bleach to dilute your pool!

@Harriet's DS and DD.

Heartbroken0903, just ewww at your brother's French kiss. TV can be a great teacher, but, sometimes, just ewww.

My DSIL has children from a previous M. At a family reunion, I discovered that his ex is a distant cousin, so I'm (distant) cousin to some of my grandchildren!

Does that make me related to HSFFC???


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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does that make me related to HSFFC???

You better hope not. This crazy runs DEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEP!


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married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^^


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