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User Topic: Friend tried to make me
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely tell his wife...believe me, I'm sure she would be interested to know- if I were her I would...

Me- 40
FWH- 40 recovering SA

Her- 43, a self-centered bitch concerned with no one but herself

DDay- July 13, 2013

Back off man- I'm a scientist!
~ Dr. Peter Venkman

Posts: 720 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Southeastern PA
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Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

F- fair dos. And it would undo a lot of my hard work I guess.

This sounds like he's already been busted by his wife before.
Definitely let her know this tiger has not changed his stripes.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 4:58 PM, March 11th (Tuesday)]

Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Posts: 6526 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you tell her now so she can decide if she even wants to come home? I know I would take my time coming back if I had this information.

Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8707 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, you were very clear the last time. Is there any chance he's asking for another reason? From what you wrote here, you didn't use your relationship as a reason not to be 'an outlet' (that is just disgusting that this is how he refers to cheating - an outlet). If he knows there is no way with you and he, maybe he has another reason?

I doubt it, but you never know.

The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

Posts: 1898 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: East Coast
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If this were my husband, I would want to know. Somehow, tell her. I would be done with my H if he were doing this.

ME - BS - 33
WH - 30
Married 9 years, together 11
2 kids: D8, S2
D-Day: June 10th, 2010
Trudging through R.

Posts: 593 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: TX
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Screen shot it and message it to his wife.include your contact information that she can verify if needed. Delete and block him

On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 536 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sigh. What a douche. Send the convo to the wife, block him and wait.

Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2239 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
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Default  Posted: 3:43 AM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"you need to take a serious look at your boundaries and set them waaaaay back from where you've got them now."

gently ... but so do you. your boundaries arent very healthy.
why get into this conversation at all? as soon as he sent the meme ... block. why converse with someone who has just made it plain they want to have sex with you? healthy boundaries are to IMMEDIATELY STOP the conversation, block them, and tell your spouse.

instead you spent some time conversing with them. you got sucked in to their conversation. you had the best of intentions but still got sucked in.

why allow yourself to get sucked in?

me - bh
her - lara01

from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA

??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys

Posts: 549 | Registered: Jan 2014
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Default  Posted: 3:00 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I didn't answer and I think his wife may actually have left him!! Judging from the "so shocked to hear, hope you're ok" posts on his FB wall (public) and the response "I messed up I'm an idiot and I hope she can forgive me."
Maybe she checked his FB herself? Or maybe he's got an OW- or he's a bastard and she can't stand him. Either way, it looks like my one time friend might be sampling his just desserts!

Never looking back with longing. Always looking forward with hope.

Posts: 58 | Registered: Feb 2014
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely send your convo with him to his wife. She may have left him, back-up never hurts!

Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

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