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User Topic: Heading to child mediation
GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wish me luck!


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 728 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending mojo and luck your way, GP!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25335 | Registered: Aug 2011
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers and positive thoughts coming your way.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1763 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:31 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

good luck and Mojo brother.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2834 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Luck!!!


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5485 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck!!!


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6443 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck. Let us know what happens!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2233 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
grownapair
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck!


BS - me, 38, WH - 40
Kidlets 6 and 8
DD1 - I love you but... Jan 2010
DD2 - 5 Jan 2011, booted him out
R attempted April 2011, False R
DD3 - 5 Sept 2011, booted him out again
Dec 2011 - living together as a family
Jan 2014 - separated...AGAIN!

Posts: 162 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: UK
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck. Sending mojo.

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Freeme
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck!! Hope it goes well for you.

Posts: 223 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: Washington DC
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Been crossing my fingers for you today! Report back!


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 937 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
dmari
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Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck!! Will be thinking of you!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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GotPlayed
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Default  Posted: 12:22 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi everyone, so it went smoothly! I guess the prospect of a social worker asking about her FOO issues made her very reasonable. We decided on 50/50 custody and agreed. I was able to add language making it impossible for jailbird to be alone with my kids.

I took her to dinner afterwards (I hadn't talked to her since Jan, so I thought it was appropriate since she behaved so well). We talked a bit. She says she doesn't see OM but still texts with him. That she hates him but still took care of his dog because he asked her to.

She was very afraid I'd go after full custody and that I was going to blast her at the meeting or disagree wantonly. I told her that wasn't my intention, but the texts OM sent seemed to have the intent to make her lose the kids by forcing my hand to go for full custody (at leas that's how I interpreted them). I didn't give her any details but left it at that. She's a bit paranoid, since all she got was second and third hand information. I have been as consistent as I can myself, but she wasn't hearing any of it. She seems calmer now.

We talked about the kids, a bit on the plans for housing for both of us (I avoided specific on finances other than the regular bills), and her plans for a job (she is looking for one - yay!). Now the next part is the tough one - the separation of assets and supports..

But at least the custody is done, and there was no major disagreements. We signed and we're on to the next one!

Thank you for your prayers and thoughts everyone!


Master of my Fate, Captain of my Soul.
BS 42, WW 41. 18y married
DD: 11/5/13
DS10 Autism, DD8
OM: Reformed wife-beater ex-con
D filed 1/14/14 by WW (never warn them, they'll get ahead)
Married a powder keg

Posts: 728 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: California
dmari
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Default  Posted: 12:49 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for stepping by and giving us an update! I'm sure you are emotionally exhausted. I'm so happy things went well for you!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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