Her- 43, a self-centered bitch concerned with no one but herself
DDay- July 13, 2013
Back off man- I'm a scientist!
~ Dr. Peter Venkman
Sometimes, the OW believes the only reason he isn't speaking to her is because his mean old wife won't let him. Sometimes, the OW believes she can say the right thing to get him to come back to her. Sometimes, they don't make contact for a long time and then try again when they believe the storm has passed and sometimes they wait years and then think they can be friends. In my case, the first OW sent my husband a friend request on a social network five years after their last contact.
Attempts at contact are pretty common. If he is firm on NC, her attempts at contact won't matter. And if he's doing the right thing, he'll tell you about any attempts at contact so you can decide how best to handle them together.
She would send an email without a message. Sort of a game to see if the emails would remind him of her, and he would just HAVE to contact her because they were in lurrrve.
He never took the bait.
If I were you, I'd continue to monitor all of his media until you feel safe. Doesn't mean she won't try to contact him sometime in the future. Be vigilant. You and WH need to come up with a plan on how to handle together if she does initiate contact. Work as a team.
My fWH had kept NC after dDay and was relieved he no longer had to deal with stalker OW. He and I both told her on dDay to stop contacting us and stay away from us.
Then OW sent a linked in request about 8months after dDay. I just reported her invitation as spam and deleted it. And I changed both our profiles to be non public viewing.
Fingers crossed she is gone for good but we still have our guard up.
[This message edited by whattheh at 10:57 AM, March 11th (Tuesday)]
Cray cray... she blew up his cell. When he did not answer, she called his work cell phone. He claims it was in error that he answered his work cell. But, that contact created a s--t storm. She continued to try and contact him and he ignored her. I read a text in which she wrote "WH you continue to hang up on me".
My H asked me on DD to block her from his cell. I chose not to because as far as I am concerned, he has to prove to me that A is over. You see, in the past they had gone underground. My coward was trying to end the A and told her that I had a PI and had the texts and e mails. So AP bought him a cell phone.
Keep your eyes and ears open.
Both feet pointed forward; positive
Keep your eyes open.
I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.
Is it fairly common or uncommon for her to try to contact him???
You will find plenty to examples both ways on SI - some try to contact, some go away forever.
My WW's AP that she had for 12+ years went away after NC. I have double checked and I am 99.9% certain there has been no contact.
I did put an expectation on my WW that if he does ever try on any attempt she has no more than one hour to tell me. I told her I do not care if she has to drive to my work because I am in a meeting and not taking calls to tell me. That way there is no thinking about it. No wondering if a simple fishing attempt qualifies. If he tries to contact, she will tell me immediately and we will work together to decide what we will do about it. Having that expectation gives me some peace of mind.
Fat ass tried to text my now ex on his birthday but found out she'd been blocked. The pitiful desperado then sent her message via email instead, where I easily found it as he always had his email up and open on his computer (and that's where I paid all the bills from).
I replied to her, telling her that her fat ass was now being blocked from his email as well, since she was too damned stupid to comprehend the 3 little words, "don't contact him."
Don't be surprised one day when out of the blue, there's a sudden fishing line bobbing in the water.
I think she is on good behavior b/c she was on thin ice with the OBS. If and when their marriage fails, I will worry a little more. I also worry a little about the affair season, which is coming up, and I worry that word might get to her when he is out of town. H maintains he feels nothing positive for her anymore, just ambivalence and a little disgust, so I am hopeful.
I edit, therefore I am.
She got the message pretty fast.
"The most expensive thing in th world is TRUST, it takes years to earn and just a matter of seconds to lose"
Not a surprise, she didn't stop. For 15 months she'd send FWH emails/texts/IM's. He never responded. When we figured out how to block her cell, she simply got another one to text from. At that point, we went to an attorney who prepared a letter warning her that any further contact would result in her arrest. It finally did the trick.
I hope you're rid of her for good, but as others have stated, they can be persistent little sluts.