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User Topic: The last two nights
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he's shown up in my dreams. Both times he showed up in my house. Stripper whore was at the front door, OC on her hip, knocking on the door. Ex-shat saying take me back but let's let her in.
No, I tell him. And I walk into another room where my sisters and mom are and they stare him down and he leaves. Suddenly another person randomly appears, says she's from Texas, was happy to finally meet me, waves and says see ya around and walks out.
That's the end of the dream. Pretty sure SI made a cameo appearance. But no Teslet...doesn't that seem weird?


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think it's weird teslet wasn't in the dream, if that's what you're asking. And I'm so used to having weird dreams myself that your dream seems pretty normal to me. I've had several where SIers have made appearances, including one dream where there was a g2g on an airplane. In the dream I knew who certain SIers were, even though I hadn't met them irl or knew what they looked like. I do remember waking up from that dream feeling really good. Must have been all the SI love.


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newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 10:07 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is so weird because I was just telling a friend today that I've been having a lot of dreams about the Gnat. In the last one, he came to pick up the kids wearing a wedding band. When I asked about he became really PA and refused to acknowledge (like he would IRL). I then asked if he discussed it with DD yet and he refused to answer that either.

The funny thing is that Hello Kitty is from Texas, maybe it was her in your dream. Was she a disease infested whore driving a Mercedes convertible?

It sounds like our brains are trying to work something out concerning these assholes.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I never remember my dreams. So to have one that actually sticks with me is strange. But you'd think as much as Teslet is on my concious throughout the day that he would have shown up in the dream too.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4610 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
SBB
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Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The legal crap is playing on your mind - his 'perceived hold' over you is weakening but until this is done he is on your mind. Teslet is not a part of this drama.

In my dreams the sad clown is in a deep pit, begging me to pull him out. There's a rope but I won't touch it. I don't trust it or him. It often turns into a snake. I'm not afraid of the snake but I won't touch it. No one else sees a rope, just a snake. His family beg me to pull him out - the snake won't hurt me but it will kill them. They won't touch it. My friends are in the background - backing me up. No. NO. I want someone else to help him but I can't. I won't. I know he can pull himself up and tell him so. He keeps begging.

My girls are not in these dreams.

I hate these dreams. They happen only every few months now. I always wake up agitated by them.


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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My STBXH makes a lot of cameo appearances in my dreams. In last night's dream he was walking around with his 'johnson' hanging out for all the world to see. I had to make him cover up. Easy to see the symbolism in that one.

The worst are the dreams of happier times with STBXH. Though lately, my dream self starts bitching him out for "ruining real life."


Edited to correct stupid typos.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I doubt you have conflicts/unresolved crap hiding in the corners of your head about teslet like you probably do about ex-shat, stripper whore, and even OC.

Just a thought.


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Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe somewhere inside your head you are thinking that they are going to be homeless soon......(teslet wasn't in the dream because he already has a *home*).


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In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have also had dreams of X the past 2 night! Very vivid and clear dreams. In the dreams he is my X but he is a part of my life, which he has not been in 8 years. DD was also not in my dreams

weird


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So shake him off
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Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pretty sure SI made a cameo appearance.
I think if SI had been in your dream, wasband would have got his butt kicked.


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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know this is a bit off topic, but every time you mention Stripperwhore, I think of this lady's hair.

Okay, I deleted the photo, because it was way too big and I'm technologically challenged. It was Chef Anne from food Network. Her hair is so bleached and ratty looking. I always think of Stripperwhore.

[This message edited by newlysingle at 11:13 PM, March 10th (Monday)]


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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newlysingle
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I clearly don't know what I'm doing and have no idea how to make that photo smaller.


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am from Texas. Was it me in your dream? Maybe I made an appearance in solidarity, to back you up. Right about now I'd be happy to slip on my cowgirl bitch boots and whoop some ass!


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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
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Posts: 3555 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
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Default  Posted: 12:37 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG I would thoroughly enjoy being part of a posse that kicked your ex's ass. There are a couple ex's and STBX' who I would enjoy opening a can of whoop as on. Yes, I know that's bad grammar. I don't care.

Dammit, that's not right! Let's try this:

This would be your ex:

And then this would be the SI crew:


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

he's shown up in my dreams. Both times he showed up in my house. Stripper whore was at the front door, OC on her hip, knocking on the door. Ex-shat saying take me back but let's let her in.
No, I tell him. And I walk into another room where my sisters and mom are and they stare him down and he leaves. Suddenly another person randomly appears, says she's from Texas, was happy to finally meet me, waves and says see ya around and walks out.
That's the end of the dream. Pretty sure SI made a cameo appearance. But no Teslet...doesn't that seem weird?


Some dream insight if you'd like it?

Stripper whore knocking on the door and you letting them all in: You've put boundaries in place to try and keep them out but they're trying to get your attention and come into your life. You are letting them into your life right now.(you didn't shut the door on them)

Moving from one room to another is often about moving or wanting to move from one phase of life to another. It's really positive that you moved from Ex-shat, stripper whore and OC, and went towards your support network, who help stare them down (help support you in making them feel unwelcome) making him go away...you wouldn't have Teslet in the dream because he's a constant in your life, not something that's changing.


The Texas thing, I can't interpret unless I know what Texas means to you and how you felt about her. It could be a positive thing (new start, job opportunity, holiday etc) or it could be a negative (worried about another OW etc) You see, for me (UK based) Texas is all about cowboys, adventure, guns and possibly conflict (blame cowboy films etc for that!) so that's what it would mean to me in a dream. But it probably means something very different to you!


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 2:22 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are a couple ex's and STBX' who I would enjoy opening a can of whoop as on.

NG, yours is one most of us would love to do a little, NO, a HUGE 'whoop ass' on!!

I was thinking what Lyonesse said. He wouldn't have been around to make a second appearance the next night!

Maybe Texas came into it because of the g2g there soon. That would be a whole mess of 'whoop ass' support there!


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, my wxh has also been appearing in my dreams lately. I am always off kilter for a few days afterward.

In my case, I think its because I know that he has a lot of really bad drama in his life right now. Previously, I was the one that bailed him out. Now, it's up to him - I'm just making popcorn for the show.

However, the people pleaser in me still wants to help him. Not gonna happen.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Lord, this thread made me dream about my ex last night. I feel slimed.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My dream last night had me fixing the front porch of a house. The STBX was somewhere inside. Two "family friends", from two different families come over and sit on the porch with me and ask about when I knew it was time to divorce, because they have been struggling to figure it out in their own marriages. I tell them it was easy for me because of the affair.

The two people in my dream are people I have at times been ticked at, since they never contacted me after dday to say anything comforting. One is friends with STBX so I guess it makes sense! but this is someone I have done pro bono work for as she was starting up a nonprofit and the other one is the husband of one of STBX's friends.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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hexed
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whenever I know my X is coming to my town, I have dreams about being chased. They are awful. DS is never in them. Its all about having X invade my space. I don't have them when I'm going to see him in my old home town. Only when he's coming to my new home. I'd say your upcoming contempt issues are probably the cause. Although they relate to Teslet, he isn't an active participant.


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Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

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