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TrustedHer
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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Being unemployed, I have lot of time on my hands.
With 2 good weather days in a row after The Winter From Hell, I've been making good use of it.

While I was out clearing some brush, I got to see 6 geese land on my pond for a breather in their flight North. It was nice.

However, I had an issue come up. Reviewing the backstory, X ended up with half my farm, and the other house on the farm. Currently, my middle son, DS28, is living in the house, due to a recent breakup with his long-term GF.

Apparently, my oldest visited him tonight. Since he's not driving right now, I assume either his GF or my X drove him out there. My granddaughter was with him. I could hear both their voices distinctly, even though I can't see people through all the trees.

I'm sure there's good reason, such as X providing transportation, why they didn't come the 1/4 mile to my house after the 20 miles from St. Louis to get to X's.

My Boo is the light of my life. I love her, and she loves me. It hurt to have her so close, and not to see her.

I also have a ton of things for oldest to take care of out here. Stuff he left behind after one of his moves. I've been asking him periodically to come over and make some decisions.

So I feel like an outsider and a bit neglected. Like X "won" the boys.

I know they love me, and I know they're mostly oblivious. I know they're not intentionally slighting me, and maybe they don't even know it hurts.

But tonight it does.


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5181 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((TH)))))

Could he have been getting something (money? a possession?)from the X? Maybe that's why he couldn't interact with you? Didn't want to piss her off?

I'm sorry you're hurting; I can only imagine how you felt.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20273 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((trustedher)))


Choices, Chances, Changes.....You must make a Choice to take a Chance or your life will never Change.

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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((TH)))))))


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know they love me, and I know they're mostly oblivious. I know they're not intentionally slighting me, and maybe they don't even know it hurts.

But tonight it does.

It hurts me just reading it.

You're right - they're not trying to hurt you. You're wrong too -she hasn't 'won' the boys.

You'll feel differently tomorrow but tonight I'm sending you hugs.

(((TH))


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel that, too, when I know something like that is happening, TH. My head knows they love me and there's a reason, but my stomach and my heart feel it.

((((TrustedHer))))

ETA, Try to think of the good things of that day instead of that part.

[This message edited by thebighurt at 7:24 PM, March 11th (Tuesday)]


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((TH))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((tH))

I'm sorry.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((TrustedHer)))


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:46 AM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That hurts me for your sake. :(


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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