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User Topic: WH proves that you shouldn't date before you are really ready
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not even two months into in-house separation H tells me he has a date last Friday. My mistake for asking. I could tell he had been talking to someone, phone on silent, a lot of texting...

Anyway, I asked if he was still going by himself to the movies, he informs me he is going with his new friend.

ANyway... He was home before the movie even let out. He left her in the movie theater. Told me she wanted more than he did and he didn't feel comfortable staying, so he left.

I felt bad for the girl but YOWZA... Left in the middle of a date.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

Posts: 3280 | Registered: Apr 2009
norabird
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Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh jeez. Not surprising that waywards have no idea how to listen to the voice inside them that knows if it's too soon. But can you stop talking to him about these private things even though you'e in-house? It can't be helpful for you.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

stop talking to him about these private things even though you'e in-house? It can't be helpful for you.
This.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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Posts: 6525 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
IWantDoOver
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

porn addict for 15 yrs.

Isn't porn addiction an intimacy disorder?

Told me she wanted more than he did and he didn't feel comfortable staying, so he left.

He'll probably white knuckle it through all intimate encounters, until he does the work ... or meets another broken human being.


Peace

Posts: 212 | Registered: Jun 2013
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

stop talking to him about these private things even though you'e in-house? It can't be helpful for you.

I think my morbid need to look at a train wreck got the better of me. We shouldn't be talking about that type of thing at all.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

Posts: 3280 | Registered: Apr 2009
demos
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My gut says that night didn't go down that way. But I agree with others that you should just avoid the subject.

Posts: 175 | Registered: May 2012
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well....let the crazy begin.

Got a private number on my cell phone today trying to get me to say if I was separated or not. Really???

Years ago I got a few phone calls from his work either telling me something or trying to info out of me. Today's phone call triggered some very old feelings. I hate this.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

Posts: 3280 | Registered: Apr 2009
Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Got a private number on my cell phone today trying to get me to say if I was separated or not. Really???
Did this person ask this on a voicemail or did you take the call? I make it a practice to not answer private numbers. If I know you then I have your number. Otherwise leave a message I can quickly delete.


xBH
D final 8/2012

Posts: 4000 | Registered: May 2012 | From: southeast
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I ignored the first private number then 2 minutes later I got another private which I answered. I shouldn't have. Lesson learned.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

Posts: 3280 | Registered: Apr 2009
Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was home before the movie even let out. He left her in the movie theater. Told me she wanted more than he did and he didn't feel comfortable staying, so he left.

I am willing to bet that's not what really happened.


Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

Posts: 2256 | Registered: Feb 2010
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have no reason to believe that isn't what happened but who knows?

I told H all about the private info seeking call. It didn't go well at all.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

Posts: 3280 | Registered: Apr 2009
Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I told H all about the private info seeking call. It didn't go well at all.

There is all kinds of wrong here.

A gentle 2x4 ~

You are his wife and not his sister. Please don't discuss his dating with him at all. That is so strange and painful...And please don't engage any phone calls from his whores fishing for info from his WIFE!

Please. This sitch with your WH is getting more and more off kilter.

Protect your mental health and your heart.

(((Hitbyatruck)))


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
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Posts: 1140 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Truck, you have already done this song and dance. Wasn't it exhausting enough the first *go-round*?

Be.Done. Especially based on the fact that it makes NO sense that some random *movie-date-girl* would have YOUR number and would feel comfortable enough to ask you directly about your marital status.

This stinks to high heaven.

Stop asking this douche about his *plans* and what happened. Totally 180 him and get on with YOUR life.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8075 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are all right. i need to stop asking.

the random movie date girl was a FB friend. my cell number was on my page. i removed it tonight.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

Posts: 3280 | Registered: Apr 2009
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