No wayward wants to talk about it. They want to ignore it and hope it will just go away. Of course, the BS can never really heal if that state of affairs continues. Hopefully you have read many of the articles in the healing library and you need to get some good books on healing from affairs. There is a forum on this site with book suggestions. The first book I got was "Not Just Friends" by Shirley Glass and it really saved my sanity, that and this site. If you can get to IC and hopefully MC.
The wayward may resist MC, but insist.
If he is still cheating, or is still in the fog, about the only cure for that is a hard 180. It is scary, but sometimes it is the only way to find out if there is hope.
So sorry you are going through this, but you will have lots of support on this site. We have all been there and know the pain you are suffering. Hugs and get tough.