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User Topic: Scared sh*tless. Prayers please
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending (((Hugs))) and prayers that everything is all right.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers and mojo.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5097 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all for the prayers and reassurance. Our primary doc is out of the office till Monday and neither of her partners considers this any sort of emergency. So he'll see our doc early next week. I'm not thrilled but what I do know is that he had completely normal bloodwork (CBC and CMP) in November, and has no other symptoms. So I am going to take a DEEP breath and just stay calm.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2735 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending what mojo I have. (((HF & JM)))


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10097 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending mojo, take some deep breaths and hang in there until Monday.

((((JM & HF))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2587 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((HF & JM))

Sounds like lipoma. A previous SO of mine had a lump exactly as you describe, exactly where you describe, and that's what it was. Totally harmless.

I do radiology billing for a living and I can't tell you how many studies cross my desk with a symptom of "mass, lump" etc. Most of the time, the findings are nothing serious at all.

Breathe. Soak in the SI mojo and good vibes. And do keep us posted.


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


Posts: 823 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
boontje
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just saw this HF. I'm so sorry you have to wait until next week to have this checked out. I know it's easier said than done, try to not worry too much. In the meantime hugs and prayers to you both.

[This message edited by boontje at 7:13 PM, March 13th (Thursday)]


Me: BS
Dday: June 2011
Working on R, one day at a time

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.
― Ernest Hemingway



Posts: 934 | Registered: Aug 2011
sadtoo
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Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HFSSC,
Sending prayers.

FYI,
I was rubbing on my H's chest one night and felt a lump. Near the center, but a little to the right. it was definately in the chest tissue. it was hard, but not bone, and wouldn't move. It wasn't a zit or a cyst. (I'm a pro at those. ) He called the Dr and went in. They did a biopsy. We had to wait for those results. Then when they came back, they said, "We're not sure what it is, but it needs to come out." So he went in about a week later and they cut this thing out. It was round on the top, but had "fingers" or legs that branched down deeper into his tissues. It was really gross! Then they tested that and it came back as some benign growth.

We were really stressed out and worried the whole time and it turned out to be nothing. Hopefully Jm's is nothing too.


It is what it is, not what we hope it can be.

When another woman takes your husband,
sometimes the best thing you can do for
yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless
bum.
OC born 2001
Divorced 2003
Remarried 2008 (New Guy)


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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HF and JM)))

Sending lots of mojo your way.


Posts: 7097 | Registered: Dec 2010
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending much mojo and prayers and stay calm vibes until JM's appt.

I'm glad you're both being vigilant.


Posts: 3383 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((HUGS)) and good vibes to you both.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6739 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
Faithful w/Love
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Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2664 | Registered: Aug 2011
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry you have to wait so long.

Sending prayers that it's nothing.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HF,

Did he go in today?


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just saw this - sending positive thoughts your way HF and JM.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3936 | Registered: Dec 2011
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The soonest appointment we could get is next Monday. I adore our doc and staff, and I am really okay about this. My dad (also a nurse) looked at it and palpated it and thinks lipoma also. So I am waiting, patiently, but will still feel better after it's "officially" examined.

Thanks so much, y'all. This community means SO much to me.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2735 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought of this today, so thank you for the update! I am glad you feel ok/better and are ok with waiting. Continued prayers and support winging your way.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5824 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 7:14 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thinkng of you guys!!!!

I had something similar years ago. It turned out to be a gland. I didn't even know I had glands there (dr replied....oh yes....they are all over). Seemed like it got big out of no where (one day nothing, next shower it was there).

I was scared to death too.


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


Posts: 2101 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Millions of hugs and prayers. (((HFSSC)))


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8700 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Healing and loving thoughts to you both.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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