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User Topic: Less Love?
Allornothing
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((AndreaL)))

I also struggle with the fact that my WH knew that my father's A shattered me and my family. My dad left us for his OW, and I never wanted the same thing to happen to my kids.

However, the big difference between my WH and my dad: WH has remorse, he's doing the work, he's being everything that a recovering wayward should be.

When the thoughts of my WH being just like my dad creep in, I tell myself "They are NOT the same person, AON, your dad was a cheater and a coward, he ran rather than face the music; your husband is doing the opposite of what your dad did, he's working hard to repair the damage, he's facing his demons!"

Sounds a little nuts, but I say it out loud, and like it's somebody else knocking some sense into me. It works!


Me- BS 43
Him- FWH 43
Married 19 years, Together 26
Kids- 23,21,15,14
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
OW- Irrelevant

Posts: 186 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Australia
crazyblindsided
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Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your Dday is still so recent. I was no where near feeling love for my fWH at 3 months out. I am 2 years out and the love is strong, but different. I feel something a little less and I can't quite pinpoint what it is. More like I feel like our M has a big scar on it.


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
AndreaL
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Member # 41522
Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for all the responses....gives me a lot to ponder. Sigh...how I wish my life was different.


Me:35
Hubby:38
Kids ages: 2 and 5
Married: 8 years
DDAY: Dec 1 2013
Affair: 2 months EA and PA
Status: Separted. Sigh...I wish I could forgive 😞

Update: attempting to reconcile


Posts: 215 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Canada
Topic Posts: 23
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