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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TCD, You have so much going for you. You've got a long, productive, joyful life to live. You're a loving, lovable, capable human being, and you will get through this.
DITTO!!!!! (((TCD)))


FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

Posts: 5989 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Count me in as one that did get through it despite the fact that there were many days that I questioned whether I could.

Hope that you are feeling stronger soon.

(((TCD)))


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


Posts: 2124 | Registered: Nov 2011
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((TCD)))

I am here with you.

You WILL be ok, better than ok.

Stand tall and know you are a strong, beautiful, smart woman who deserves to find her happiness.

And you will.


ďAnd the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossomĒ
AnaÔs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3850 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
TattoodChinaDoll
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you everyone. I wish I could say more but I don't want to risk getting hurt any more than I am (emotionally not physically so don't worry). There are so many strong people here. I wish you could get paid to be our life coaches.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 34 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011


Posts: 1729 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
Shattered-Heart
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((TCD)))
Do you live in a warehouse? There a lot of support here!

Sorry it's sucky right now, but know there's a lot of love and support thinking and rooting for you. Whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger, I guess... and makes us really appreciate the good stuff!


Me BW
Him WH
"The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage

Posts: 181 | Registered: May 2011
Truly
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just gonna take a wild stab in the dark (wouldn't that be fun?!) and guess that MrTCD is reading SI and being less that supportive.
^^^^^Understatement of the year

Feeling that the lounge is getting a little crowded I've brought my camping chair and I'm sitting just outside your window, out under the big sky. I hear your warm voices and feel your smiles, needed those today.

What an awesome SI party! if only it was IRL xxx

((((((((((((((((((TCD)))))))))))))))))))

Kia kaha
xxx


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope you feel better soon.


"You have insulted my footwear."

Posts: 7495 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
k94ever
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TCD, unleash your inner Bitch.

We'z all gots our popcorn and camping chairs and beer/wine drinking hats on and are ready for the throw-down.

Mr. Slithers is here somewhere. Want me to see if he will bite him?


k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6587 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
MissMouseMo
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If there's safety in numbers, count me in (even if I have to sit on someone's lap - man, this place is crowded!)


It is the gut-wrenching, down-to-your-soul honesty that helps so much. ~paraphrased from CancunCrushed
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal

Posts: 376 | Registered: Feb 2013
CantLoseHope
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TCD, I wish we were all your living room too...

seriously everyone how fun would that be?

We are definitely here for you, and I for one am definitely in pain as well, but I have to say ...... I am 10 months into separation and I can honestly say I DO feel stronger, but it doesnt hurt any less unfortunately.

TCD, I can't say that the pain will ever go away but I can say that you will and are becoming stronger..... Just be sure to always confront your feelings, don't become bitter, you need to still love life. Becoming stronger does NOT mean your heart turns to stone.

AIR HUGS, rather, WEB HUGS!!!


"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"


Posts: 172 | Registered: Feb 2014
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending good thoughts your way. You will get through this, and come out stronger on the other side.

Posts: 7654 | Registered: Dec 2010
FixYou71
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((TTCD))


BS: 43
H: 49
Dday #1 Oct 2007 (Porn for 2 yrs)
Dday #2 May 2013 (Porn for 5 more yrs))
Dday#3 May 2014 (finally admitted to drunk kissing OW in 1994: the 2nd drunken kiss with another woman during our M)
DD 21 and DS 17
Married 1993

Posts: 452 | Registered: Mar 2014
StillStanding1
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Looks like it's standing room only in there...

Thought I'd just drop by with a couple of good thoughts (from the mouths of those wiser than I):

If youíre going through hell, keep going . - Winston Churchill

Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. - Confucious

Life isnít about finding yourself. Lifeís about creating yourself. - George Bernard Shaw

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. - Winston Churchill

((((TCD))))


Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 21 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, he officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...

Posts: 721 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know, I AM almost literally in your backyard. If you need RL support, I can get to you. PM me.


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 3694 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((TCD)) no matter what the outcome, you will survive. You will thrive.

I did not believe this, but it's true. I, too, had a remorseless husband. I, too, stayed for a very long time. I, too, was isolated and felt alone. I wasn't--many more cared for me than I knew. And I've met many more since then.

I thought it would never be better. But OMG, it is. So, so much better. It can be for you, too.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8889 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
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Red  Posted: 1:13 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Truly,

Please remember the following guideline:

FLAMING & ATTACKING: Please refrain from attacking another member, publicly or by using the SI.com Private Message feature. Do not bait or call out others. This includes members and non-members.

Thank you.


Posts: 10000 | Registered: May 2002
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

TCD, we ARE all in your living room.

Hang in there. Put yourself first this time.

((((((TCD))))))))

I hope today finds you feeling better.


Posts: 3423 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
confused615
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How are you doing today,TCD?


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7756 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Truly
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Huge apologies to all,

Comment made as a jest. Clearly didn't think that one through.

Sorry (((((TCD))))) Hope things are better today x


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
lastdance
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a JERSEY GIRL too...love new jersey but it is toooooooo coldddddd for me....I now go between texas and florida.......searching for the sun....im sending you lots of sunshine your way..lots of hugs....and lots of love.....be strong,but love yourself jersey girl......sending smiles to you jerseygirl from this jerseygirl in texas

Posts: 153 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: orlando, fl
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