Topic: The hurt
Member # 42093
| Posted: 10:37 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
There was a woman behind me this morning who was obviously distraught. She was trying desperately to hide her tears, but even with her sunglasses on I could still see her quivering lip in my side mirror. At a stop light, she quickly pulled her visor down, removed her glasses and wiped her eyes, then put the visor back up, clinched her fist and said something to herself. I don't know what she was going through, but she was in pain, and I fought the urge to pull this woman out of the car and hug her. Perhaps, you've been that woman behind the wheel, feeling alone and so sad, and perhaps you thought no one could feel your pain. You are wrong though,there's always someone who sees and someone who feels right there with you.
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Posts: 133 | Registered: Jan 2014
Member # 12802
| Posted: 10:42 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
... perhaps you thought no one could feel your pain. You are wrong though,there's always someone who sees and someone who feels right there with you.
so true. I hope that lady finds some peace, whatever her pain was, and knows that someone cares.
From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK
Posts: 14823 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
Member # 28156
| Posted: 11:42 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
I have cried and then lately I have screamed in the car.. I do feel so much better that people now accept any lip movement, as a cell phone..I used to feel so embarrassed and ashamed if I was seen.....
Humor aside, once at a stop light, I saw a man punch his wife repeatedly in the face..They were very young...I struggled with my decision..I did call 911, but I drove around the block...I wanted so much to get her out....He was very dangerous.
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Posts: 885 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: athome
Member # 22870
| Posted: 11:45 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Many years ago, I was at a stop light across from a woman that was just sobbing.
I was young then and didn't know what to think. Now, I would have tried to help her in some way.
I have been that woman since then...
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 7435 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 40379
| Posted: 11:52 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Many of us here have been that woman, I think. Driving alone is generally the only time I AM alone - have a very customer facing job plus kids, so it's often the only time I can "let go".
I think I'd have wanted to give her a hug too.
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Posts: 190 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: England
Member # 40819
| Posted: 12:04 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
I have been that woman, and sometimes I still am. Sunglasses can only do so much. I never noticed it before, but maybe I am more aware now? Now when I see the pain in someone else I sympathize and can almost feel my pain and heart wanting to reach out to them.
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Posts: 267 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Tampa Bay Florida
Member # 35812
| Posted: 2:09 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
When my PTSD was screaming at me that my house was unsafe, I used to get in my truck for safety. Sometimes I would drive, sometimes I would just go a block and park. I'll never forget one night that I drove about 4 blocks away, parked, and then hunkered down in the floor well of the passenger's side so that I could cry hysterically. I'm glad that it was at night as it was right across from a heavily trafficked public park.
Yeah, seems like when you're in pain, you see everyone else in pain around you too, doesn't it.
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Posts: 4586 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 39134
| Posted: 2:15 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
This is was me yesterday. After disappointing IC/MC meeting. I started in the elevator. Put my sunglasses on. Made it to the car and sobbed and sobbed and moaned in agony. The pain was unbearable. I will from now on always offer comfort to anyone I see in distress or pain.
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Posts: 482 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Midwest
Member # 35846
| Posted: 2:18 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
IMO there is no better place to cry than in my car. Loud radio, tears flowing, f-bombs flying, snot on the steering wheel...
Yeah I think we have all been there.
((((hugs)))) for the days we need to escape to the car
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Posts: 3775 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 40761
| Posted: 2:19 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
solo driving and sobbing is definitely my MO. Sometimes I will blast a song and try to sing along as I sob. I'm sure it's a scary sight if any other drivers happen to notice. hahaha.
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