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User Topic: I'm clueless, I met a guy
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Update : I texted him at 6pm and asked if he still wanted to try to get together this weekend. As of now, 9pm, I have not heard back.

He does work until 11pm, so I will give him that, but if I don't hear from him tomorrow, I guess I will have my answer.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3350 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would give it till tomorrow. maybe he never texts from work or whatever. i wish phones gave you a confirmation the text has been read.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay for you, Sparkysable! And yay for him. He was smart enough and brave enough to start a conversation with an attractive, smart woman! Now I hope he isn't too shy to act on it.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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lovehatelove
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He's shy and you know that. I guaranty he's probably sitting at home scared to death about texting you again because of rejection. I say throw him a bone and text him yourself. Let him know you're free this coming weekend and was curious if he was still interested in getting together. If he declines then game over, erase his number, no harm done.

Yep, this is what I was thinking.... I know what it's like to be shy and to want to call someone, but can't bc you're terrified...!!

Keep us updated!


DDay ~ 2/23/13

Posts: 163 | Registered: Feb 2014
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still no response to last night's text from me to him, asking if he still wanted to try to get together this weekend. It's Friday, if I'm going out, I need time to get a sitter.

I guess you never know what's going on with someone. Something must have made him change his mind. Whatever it was, it's not about me.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3350 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
LearningToRun
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry he didn't respond.

i'm still in the camp that if a guy wants to see you, he will make it happen, He will be considerate and he will give you enough time to get a sitter.

Take it as a huge compliment that he approached you and congrats! these steps are hard!!



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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. Sorry, Sparky.

His loss.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7655 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Some Men????

This isn't about you at all.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

Posts: 3280 | Registered: Apr 2009
libertyrocks
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So??? Anything yet??


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
persevere
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry sparky, definitely his loss.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4527 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm assuming you didn't hear from him. I figure that must be because he fell down a giant hole and broke his cellphone in the process because why would he ask you out otherwise and then not get back to you?!?!?

Well, it's his loss.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3606 | Registered: Oct 2011
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, March 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No response. Complete radio silence.

I figure that must be because he fell down a giant hole and broke his cellphone in the process because why would he ask you out otherwise and then not get back to you?!?!?
Yes TA74, clearly he is stuck at the bottom of a big giant pit, screaming for help, holding his busted cellphone crying "NO! NO! Now I can't go out with the beautiful sparkysable! My life is ruined! HELP! HELP! SOMEONE GET ME OUT OF THIS GIANT PIT AND FIX MY CELLPHONE!"

That MUST be what happened....


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3350 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
kg201
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Default  Posted: 9:48 AM, March 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by kg201 at 12:43 PM, March 16th (Sunday)]


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

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