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User Topic: Marriage contract question
Freebygrace
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is there an article about this somewhere? I saw it referenced in JFO.

I feel like my WS and I are on different planets when it comes to the marital rules. Like, I wouldn't go out and do things that make him mad or upset. He has no problem doing that to me though. I think we need some guidelines.


Me: BS 45
Him: fWH 48
OW: my BFF well not forever apparently
Lots of kids, married 22 years
DDay: 01/16/01
On the fence about R or D?

Posts: 109 | Registered: Feb 2014
Truly
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Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry (((((((((Freebygrace)))))))))

I don't know of an article, but someone here will.

I thought the rules were in the marriage service??

And in the morals, values and hearts of all good people??

I may have missed something...

Kia kaha
xxx


There are dark shadows on the earth, but its lights are stronger in the contrast.
Charles Dickens


Posts: 257 | Registered: Sep 2013
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not sure if you are talking about a figurative contract or a literal one.
I'm in a covenant M, so it is a legal contract besides the actual M certificate.

www.supreme.state.az.us/dr/Pdf/covenant.pdf

If the PDF doesn't open up, trying googling covenant marriage Arizona. Arizona is one of the states that has covenant M and recognizes it from other states as well.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2213 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
Freebygrace
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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it is figurative. It's in the consequences thread, first post.

I thought there was an article or post about it? So that both people are on the same page.

And YES! I agree that was in the vows of the ceremony. But it seems that my WS didn't really get it. He seems to think that acting as a single person is OK. Spending money without consulting the other is OK. And if you aren't feeling good in the marriage, you can self sooth however you want. In the arms of someone else. And if you are mad when you do that, then all should be forgiven. Ugh

I need a contract or guidelines or something.


Me: BS 45
Him: fWH 48
OW: my BFF well not forever apparently
Lots of kids, married 22 years
DDay: 01/16/01
On the fence about R or D?

Posts: 109 | Registered: Feb 2014
jpumpkin
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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know of a pre made one. I agree it was in the original vows. Isn't it sad that that some grown ups need it spelled out. "No, you doing everything you want regardless of my feelings is not you honoring me." For a long time my FWS felt my desire to be honored was me being controlling.

[This message edited by jpumpkin at 6:25 PM, March 13th (Thursday)]


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