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User Topic: books for waywards that suffered from incest and abuse
cannibal
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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My fwf suffered from sexual abuse from her adopted father. She was abused by a neighbor boy and a few others too. She has addiction problems with drugs sex and alcohol. We were wanting to find internet groups, books, and any other information that may help her deal with these issues. Any suggestions are welcome.


Me: BF 35 Her: FWF 35 dss: 17
D-day: 06/06/04. Ons
D-day: 02/28/13. length of A: 4+ months
Seperation after dday
Moved back in 6/20/13
Broke n/c: 07/24/13
Together since: 02/05/02

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: cannibal
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Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you're good with it being faith based, my church offers a group counseling program called "Journey Groups" for these types of victims. See if you can find a group in your area. They are part of the Open Hearts Ministry out of Michigan but have groups across the country.

Also check out the book "The Wounded Heart" by Dan Allender. He is also the founder of Open Hearts Ministry.


AJ's MOM


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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Breaking Free: Help for survivors of childhood sexual abuse by Ainscough and Toon is a worthwhile read.


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A went underground. True R 02.10
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, March 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Sexual Healing Journey by Wendy Maltz. Opened my eyes by showing me that sexual deviancy is not an uncommon reaction to childhood sexual abuse (CSA). Also if she is reluctant to start IC or it's not an option, have her go to rainn.org. They have a free, confidential counseling service by phone or live chat. I did one session on live chat and it was just amazing that the counselor "got me" immediately. And zero judgment about my cheating. That chat session, and the book, helped me overcome my resistance to IC. Which has helped me immensely.

Feel free to have her PM me.


fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
"Between stimulus and response there’s a space, in that space lies our power to choose our response, in our response lies our growth and our freedom." V. Frankl

Posts: 1249 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Redneck land
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Default  Posted: 2:53 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for all the suggestions on books. I've passed it along to fwf along with contact information for 20wrongsvs1. I appreciate all the suggestions and hope that fwf will follow up on at least one of them.


Me: BF 35 Her: FWF 35 dss: 17
D-day: 06/06/04. Ons
D-day: 02/28/13. length of A: 4+ months
Seperation after dday
Moved back in 6/20/13
Broke n/c: 07/24/13
Together since: 02/05/02

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: cannibal
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