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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's been six years this month since we put the deposit down on the House of Pain.

Since it's right across the street from where I work, I can see the giant trees in the backyard every time I walk to the mailroom.

I envisioned us retiring there, but heck no, he fucked that one up bigtime.

Not sad or anything anymore, I've definitely moved on (three actual moves later) and enjoy my new life immensely. I would not trade it or go back to the way things were.

Just marking the occasion. Every spring equinox I get strong sense memories of what I was thinking and feeling as the renovations were going on, and how excited I was about finally getting a house of our own, all while he was distracted and deep in the final affair.

Now it's just a reminder of the hell I survived.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 2:55 PM, March 14th (Friday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17109 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
hexed
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((FF))

yes, 3/1 was 6yrs for me. I still can't help but mark the occasion mentally. its not always on the same day that i remember but this month always brings back a certain melonchaly/bittersweet feel. its OK. it just is. someday i hope i don't really notice it any more but right now i feel like remembering it all is a tribute to/an acknowledgement of me and all those years rather than a bow to the pain the way it used to be.

hope that you are having a lovely spring!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aw, FF. I know it's no longer a trigger, but I understand. I thought I had ridden off into the AZ sunset for the rest of my life (even though it wasn't my dream house...)

Your post made me realize the vernal equinox marks the anniversary of my D. 3 years next Friday. Time flies

[This message edited by Sad in AZ at 4:36 PM, March 14th, 2014 (Friday)]


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Posts: 19773 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Equinox is a great time to consider rebalancing, because we're neither here nor there.

Turning towards the sun is always a good place to start.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17109 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
gma56
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Cool  Posted: 8:29 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey FF !!!! My D/S buddy !!!! We did shake
up that forum 3-4 yrs ago ! Many laughs mixed with tears.

I hear ya girl !

March 9th was 6 yrs since dday for me. I celebrated my survival by signing a lease on
a building almost 3000 miles from the old marital house, to start a business . It was a sweet day
indeed !

A new life finally, some of us had a slow start. DUH !

Keep on keeping on and miss ya ! Can't call you with my new phone plan but you can call ME !!!

Big Hugs !
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20322 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:46 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey gma! Glad to hear things are rolling for you.

PM me your number, not sure if I have the right one.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17109 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 12:10 AM, March 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PM on the way !!!!


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.

Posts: 20322 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
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