So true, I can see it that way. Mine has only cheated once, but if he did it again. I am so gone. In the context of a woman staying again and again...I can see that as being weak to your own loyalty of what is healthy for you. Being weak to your own values. True, that would be insanity to me.
I try not to make those comments about woman that stay over and over again. After all, I never thought before this happened that I would stay with mine after one time.
[This message edited by hopefulmother at 11:49 AM, March 15th (Saturday)]
And I only make those statements speaking for myself. I know that I could not stay after another DDAY because one was enough for me. I too said I would never stay after one (naive I know...) but now that I've had a DDAY, I know with confidence that I wouldn't stay if there was another.
Why? It has nothing to do with being stronger or not weak or anything like that. I just know that I could not handle all the emotions and crying and trying to work things out again. It has physically exhausted me for the last 8 months, and especially since I am starting to get to a better place, I couldn't imagine going back to square one. And that is my opinion, for my life and ME alone. No one else has to share this same view, as everyone is different.
Together 7 years
DDay: June 24, 2013
The writer's assessment of why a woman who allows a man to keep cheating is really unworthy of him and she must be "dickdizzy" is one really crazy way of looking at things. Please. No man is all THAT in bed.
A person who allows the same person to keep treating them badly has self esteem issues in general. This is true if it is a friend who keeps canceling on you at the last second, or attacks you because they aren't happy with something that happened but isn't in your control (can you tell this has happened to me?). And it's true if it is a romantic relationship, too. Obviously, if you are married - and especially if there are children involved - it's not as easy to walk away.
she must be "dickdizzy" is one really crazy way of looking at things. Please. No man is all THAT in bed.
womaninflux - HAHA! I'll second that! I didn't agree with this part of the article either.
IMO, this guy set up some ridiculous straw en and then knocked them down and bragged about his prowess.
That's at least partly true for many of us, but that brings us back to unheld's valid criticisms.