I have always used sun protection, every single day! I buy skin lotions with retinol in it, and it has helped.
I started going grey years ago, so I now dye my hair very light blond and It looks great.
The one thing I hate the most? My ass has flattened out. Doesn't seem to matter how many squats I do…flat. Boobs are a little lower, but still full thanks to estrogen.
I spend the time to keep an up to date hair cut and light/flattering make up and I dress cute/age appropriate and on trend (think J Crew). I eat healthy and get regular exercise.
I think keeping skin moisturized is key to looking younger!
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
I do all the noninvasive stuff I can to keep healthy and slow down the avalanche and the rest is up to luck and genetics.
I took up running and that has kept my mind clear and gives me a chance to reflect on positive things each morning. It also gives me exercise and firmness in my butt and thighs, and access to a really active community of people. It's empowering to see women my age and twice my age running in 5K's and half marathons! It makes me proud and excited to see how active and kick ass older women can be. So definitely surround yourself with women your age and older that are doing kick ass things!
I also spend a lot more money on self care than I had to in my 30's. I wear good, light SPF lotion every single day. I get facials twice as often as I used to. I invest more money in clothes so they fit perfectly and are cool and funky but not age inappropriate. I take supplements and I get an extra hour or two of sleep a night. I drink more water and sadly pay far more attention to facial hair removal schedules so no surprises in the rear view mirror on my way in to work.
But I don't consider interventions or serious surgeries - no judgment for others, just not for me, at least not in my foreseeable future.
Another thing I do that I think is really key for my mind, heart and soul - I still dream about amazing things for my future and I try to make them happen. I'm still reaching for exciting things, I'm still throwing my hat into the ring for adventures. I'm still open to something that changes and excites me. I really think that is the thing I would be most sad to lose and would really signal to me that I was done with life. I don't want that, I want to keep building really big, exciting dreams and working for them the way I did in my 20's! I think that spirit alone has kept my boobs about 1/4" higher than they would otherwise have been!
I worked in the cosmetics business, so I don't use many, but I'm big on sunscreen since I've had several skin cancers so far and will probably have more due to childhood exposure. Also big on moisturizing, especially on my neck.
Since I retired early at 56 and live in the semi-boonies, I'm mostly a jeans gal, unless I'm going to an indoor auction. Plus, I work outdoors in both gardens a lot, so jeans are a necessity anyway.
Some days I feel like I still look good. Other days, like everyone else, I feel shitty about myself.
For the outside, I try to eat sensibly most times. I keep my face out of the sun, don't smoke, don't drink too much, and practice good skin care. On the inside, I try to take care of my soul by reading a lot, breathing deep, praying for peace and strength, and laughing. The days when I have a good belly laugh to the point where it hurts is always a good day.
Regardless of my age, I'm learning that I like me a whole lot more than I did when I was younger and my body was much more toned up. Back then, I wasn't a real deep thinker. I was never superficial, but, looking back, I was pretty surface. The experiences that I've had thus far have made me a much better person. I'm more supportive, empathetic, and use my brain and thoughts more now than like when I used to just trip the trigger on my mouth.
I have not dated, but have met a few complete strangers in social settings. The thing that I noticed was that these men seemed to find me pretty interesting without me having to be "on" like when I was younger. I'm still funny and witty and friendly, but there's more now. There's just more life that puts me in a place where I don't need to impress anyone. I know who I am, what I stand for, and what I find important. I suppose I've matured in a good way. While I would love to look 25 again, I don't think I would trade the living I've done and the fact that I'm much closer to the me I was always meant to be.
I want to embrace my age and hope to continue to grow. I agree that we can age but never get old.
You know you're getting old when you keep a pair of tweezers at work because you never know when you'll look in the mirror and see one of those long black chin hairs.
The good news is after these sudden changes things plateau again for most of us, and we really don't seem to age much between 50-70. My parents are proof of this, I can remember when I was in high school thinking how old my mom looked, of course she had been a life long smoker. She stopped, and she is an exercise nut, but I can say that at 71, she looks about the same as she did at 52.
Unless you are looking for an 18 year old new partner, I wouldn't worry about it. I wear my gray, and my wrinkles with pride. I have been through a lot to gain them. I also think I aged significantly in the first year after Dday. So it does slow and get better. But at 43 I did just my first pair of cheaters a week ago.
I think that all you can do is be the best you can be.
That means eating clean and getting some exersize.
Getting your sleep and keeping major stress out of your life.
( The stress of infidelity aged my face bigtime)
I think the right hairstyle and color can make a huge difference in your looks.
A little makeup can help too. But don't pack it on. Less is more.
Clothes that fit and flatter you also make a big difference.
The only thing that makes me feel better about aging is that we will ALL go through it.
No one is invicible.
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I've EARNED my grey hair and the few wrinkles I have. And I'm proud of them.
I plan on living the rest of my life to it's fullest and have made a new Bucket List based on MY desires and have already knocked a couple off the list.
Yeah...there's aches and pains and scars, but that's life and it shows I LIVED and just didn't float along in life.
Meryl Streep rocked grey hair in "The Devil Wears Prada" and I intend to also.
It takes guts to grow old and I'm going to enjoy the hell out of it.
Now to just find the right person to keep up with me........
What is our quest to look young? I'm not sure. I always say that every woman is born with a set of "tools." When you're 20 you use about 3 of them at a time. At 40 you're using nearly all of them, and you occasionally buy yourself some new ones!
The sucky part - I was pregnant, nursing, or trying to lose baby weight in my entire 20's. They just passed me by... so if I wanna hang on a little longer to what I have I guess I will.
Being fit is more important to me than looking young. I want experiences. Experiences I didn't get when I was young for so many reasons, and being fit allows me to do this. And I really want to do things with my grandkids, when they arrive...
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...
I don't do a huge skin regimen but I exfoliate (a big help!) and moisturize daily. Days when I'm on my game I cleanse and apply serum before bed. Other days, I collapse without even cleansing. It's important to me, but not enough to beat myself up over it. I wear light makeup but I did recently switch to one that provides SPF and a little more coverage than what I was using before.
My best compliment lately was when my Zumba instructor commented that we both had birthdays in the same week. She turned 40 and was convinced that she was older than me.
One thing I hate is sagging skin, though this is mostly my fault because I was heavy before. Now, a 70lb weight loss plus aging means saggy boobs and a lovely turkey neck. Sooo annoying, because my face looks young and I have hardly any wrinkles, but underneath my young face is this old lady neck. Can anyone recommend a cream or something for that??
I never look at XWH's facebook, but my BFF does. He recently posted a new photo and she showed it to me. It's a selfie (the only kind he posts), and again he looks awful. Bags under the eyes, eyes themselves flat and lifeless. Oily glare reflecting off his expanding forehead as he goes more and more bald. Fake smile, no teeth showing. Ugh. He looks MUCH older than me, and I have to confess taking a wicked little pleasure in that. Extra bonus is that he's friendless so no one ever "likes" anything he posts.
My mom once asked me, "How old would you think you are, if you didn't know how old you are?" So based on that, I'm about 33.
Getting old sucks. But it's better than the alternative.
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Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin
now I have a very hard time in the shower distinguishing shampoo from conditioner because the light's not good enough
Circe - and others who have this problem - I'm now even older than I was when I chose my SI name, so you shall benefit from the knowledge that real old age has finally brought me......
I had the same problem as you! Many times have I cursed hair product manufacturers for not printing the words "shampoo" and "conditioner" in very LARGE letters on the bottle. Then, fairly recently, after years of messing up and having to rinse and start again, it finally dawned on me that they do, in fact, try to help us out in our arms-too-short plight!
Even if you buy matching products, there is almost always some difference between the shampoo & conditioner bottles. Sometimes, the cap color is different. Very often, the writing on the conditioner is the other way up. Even though I can no longer read what the writing says, of course, I can often tell by the shape which way up the body of writing is. And in any case, there's usually some sort of logo in another color, or a distinctive flash in there somewhere, too. So if you memorize where that is, you can use it to tell which way up the writing is and hence which is which.
I still can't believe how many years of irritable groping and getting it wrong I endured, before I actually looked properly at the bottles when unwet - and suddenly noticed the differences.
ETA Until I read this thread, I'd never heard of "cheaters" in this context. I gather they're reading glasses. Great name! But if that isn't what they are, please would some kind person enlighten me? :-)
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I now have bifocals. I now arrange my shampoo/conditioner in order in the shower so I don't mix them up. I now have a noticable stress wrinkle right in the middle of my forehead. I now must color my hair for grays routinely. I now have bras especially designed for dates (help those girls up a notch).
Tushnurse - I take great comfort in your theory about this all clusters together and the changes from 50-70 are more subtle.
One thing is for sure. I don't smoke and drink very little. I'm don't bake outside in the sun and have never been to a tanning bed. I don't take any drugs at all other than an occasional pain killer or cold relief medication.
My husband of 19 years can't keep his hands off me and is constantly telling me I have the best shaped @$$ in the world. He used to keep saying I had a perfect "radius." But I'm a math teacher and had to explain to him a few times that an perfect radius is not a good description for a perfect @$$. So now he uses the word "contour." LOL.
He thinks my boobs are perfect too. Not sure where he gets that idea but they do look okay under clothes with a good bra. LOL.
With all that said, I do hate the aging process. I hate seeing people my age or younger starting to get sick and die. I hate seeing how so many are breaking down and I fear it happening to me. My younger sister just went through chemo and radiation for breast cancer recently.
But I'm a math teacher and had to explain to him a few times that an perfect radius is not a good description for a perfect @$$
Yes, the things you can't do anything about suck. If your attitude sucks along with them then you'll crash and burn.
My attitude is that I simply refuse and resist aging wherever possible. I'm only a few months younger than SadinAZ but I can pass for 40s (even though I can't remember them)
All the lotions and creams and hair color etc. in the world cannot make up for the impact of your own attitude. I have longevity in the family (my grandmother lived to be many years older than 100) and I can tell you that what kept her alive was her outlook on life and joie de vivre.
My younger sister has turned into a slug. When we speak on the phone, she always says, "My, I don't know where you get your energy." I don't "get" it; I make it. And some days, it's bloody hard!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
I'm 53 and having the time of my life. My hair is grey, I have cellulite and wrinkles, gravity has taken a toll, but I think I look pretty damn good for my age! The harder stuff is the aches and pains and the limits of my physical endurance - but I'm as young as I'm ever going to be again, so I'm just rolling with it and having a ball.
Do you really want to look in the mirror when you're 80 and think "you look good," or do you want to sit back and remember all the fun you have had and all the living you have done?
considering the alternative, I'll take it.
Every day I don't wake up with a dirt blanket is a blessing.