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User Topic: Pain equals a call for change
Aceofbase
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know this mostly true, but isn't it also true that change equals pain?
Thoughts?


DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R

Happiness is a choice.


Posts: 141 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: USA
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Change may be painful initially, but the long term benefits far outweigh the bad.

To not make these changes for your own good leave you in a position of constantly cycling through the same pain.

IMO it is better to walk through the pain, heal, and find a better place on the other side.


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3793 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know. It's painful when someone you love dies yet do you have to change? Just feeling it and allowing yourself to grieve maybe?


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

Me: I didn't sign up for this.
Him: you're already in this. All you can do is resign...


Posts: 4768 | Registered: Dec 2010
ChinaCat
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Change can be a great thing. I did not have any peers regarding my WH, until I found this group. Just searching for a group of this nature was going out on a limb. I have only been here a short time, but wow! I wish I had found this group so much earlier. I was so scared to open up, but changing and challenging my fear is a good thing for me.


"Every time I stay out late; every time I sleep in; every time I miss a workout; every time I don't give 100% - I make it that much easier for him to beat me!"
Me: BS & Beautiful!

Posts: 80 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: USA
norabird
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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think this is why we have the term 'growing pains'. Transitions of all types can be hard but if we are brave and face them the growth will be to our benefit.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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