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User Topic: Update on Anxiety and Uncertainty
Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I recently posted about my issues with feelings of anxiety and uncertainty. Also, I posted some time ago about a new job I was taking. It seemed like a good opportunity and the job was strictly working from home. I literally am the only employee for this company in the entire state. There have been other issues and stresses with the job but nothing that I couldn't work through or deal with before. However, the sense of total isolation that has developed over time working 100% from home has amplified all of it. My previous employer doesn't have any openings for me but I spoke to a lead earlier tonight and it looks promising. The program manager asked to complete the online application to, in his words, "move the process forward". I guess that's a good sign? I'm hoping so anyway. This new job would be primarily from home but not 100%. I'd have colleagues locally and some travel and opportunities to interact more directly with the team. Probably no difference in money but their benefits seem to be better. More importantly I think the work and the team is a better fit for me.

What I've learned about myself is that for a basically introverted guy I prefer being around people.

It also occurs to me that if I weren't living alone I can't say with absolute certainty I would be having these issues. So being relationship-alone makes being work-alone untenable.

On the plus side I've learned something about myself.
On the opposite-of-plus side what I learned is something I can't handle and makes me over-anxious.


xBH
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norabird
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you! Hope the lead turns into something great. The main thing is you're taking action to get to a better situation for yourself. Sending job mojo!


Sit. Feast on your life.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fingers crossed for you, Brandon.


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you norabird and nik.

I'm hoping it works out too. Even thinking of it working out makes me feel better.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hoping you find the right fit.


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You might read The Psychology or Computer Programming by Gerry Weinberg for some comments on introverts needing people. It won't do much for you, but you might find it interesting. Weinberg is brilliant.

A thought - you might look into you local Chamber of Commerce for a SOHO group and other meetings. It gets you out and among people. Not a perfect fit for you, but you'd probably find other people with similar interest, some of whom may actually be single women with enthusiasm for life.


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Williesmom

Appreciate everyone's support.


xBH
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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks sisoon. I look into that too.

I have found some local groups for my interest in creative writing, but that's once a week.

I'm about to kick-off the week from hell. My current job has stacked so many meetings on this week that it is utterly ridiculous. One day at a time and praying for good news from that other opportunity.


xBH
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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Update on the update...

I've been told an offer letter is forthcoming. This position could be a great opportunity. It could be very risky. They're looking for someone to be a quality manager because quality of the work on the project is having issues. I know a lot of the people on the project. I know the work in general. At a minimum it will get out of the 100% work from home position which is definitely not for me. If this job isn't right-for-me it is at least right-for-now.

On the very positive side my resume and interview were strong enough to get me an offer letter going inside 48 hours. Happy about that.

Most of all I'm happy for the support of friends and family. That includes my friends here on SI who have been so supportive through some very dark and difficult moments over the past two years.


xBH
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norabird
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's amazing Brandon!!!!! Congrats!!!!


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks Norabird

I'm a little nervous. I've never been a job-hopper. My shortest stint was 3 years. Before that was 4 years.


xBH
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5454real
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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm really glad things are looking up for you Brandon. you know for an introvert you sure have a lot of friends.


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks 5454real

Yes, I do have a lot of friends. And that irony is not lost on me that as an introvert I need to be around people.


xBH
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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great news, Brandon. I'll keep mojo heading your way until it's all said and done.


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-Hayley Williams


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you nik

The mojo is much appreciated.


xBH
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SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 12:24 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending mojo.


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Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck Brandon

And still look to find an outside activity to get you in a non-work environment.


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks SoVerySadNow. All mojo welcome

Thanks Moo
I'm working on that too. At the moment my current job has me pulling about 60-70 hours per weeks so that search will have to wait.


xBH
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brokensmile322
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Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck Brandon! I don't think working from home would be good for me either. Fingers crossed for you!

[This message edited by brokensmile322 at 7:23 AM, March 18th (Tuesday)]


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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! You go, girl! Uh.... You go, guy!


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