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User Topic: I am free...we reached agreement
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG, the last few days have been a rollercoaster of hell.

Today, was a settlement conference with asshole. Found out a lot of unpleasant things such as: DD18, that I thought was being alienated, really was being alienated. He was ready to have my first born child testify against me.

Who does evil like that? How would she deal with this betrayal of her mom for the rest of her life?

He wanted me to pay him 150% of my yearly income for various reasons, next week.

His hate of me out weights his love for his kids. I was in his NPD sights......destroy her.

It was a hard day, but he ended up settling for 10% of his initial amount, and that 10% will be paid directly to the kids. My spousal maintenance will go into a 529 directly benefitting my children.

In my mind, I WON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He did not get any direct cash, which he wanted... The kids got it. So now I have to pay a bunch to my lawyer..but so what....way less than if we went to a hearing.

My lawyer said he can never go after back child support from today back. My oldest is emancipated as of today.


I AM FREE! I AM FREE!!!

I feel like the weight of the world is off my back.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2682 | Registered: Jan 2010
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Whooooooooo-hooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; theyíll scratch you up time and time again but in the end youíre polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52211 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His hate of me out weights his love for his kids. I was in his NPD sights......destroy her.

Absolutely right. Unbelievable to realise, right?

I AM FREE! I AM FREE!!!

Same comment. Absolutely right. Unbelievable to realise, right?

I started listening to this song for the whole week prior to the notification that D was finalised. A message from the universe to me. I am free!!

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=dRcRhWErjjo


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5560 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HOORAY!!!!! Congratulations, honey!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25382 | Registered: Aug 2011
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SBB..thanks for the song. It is perfect and made me cry.

MOO and NIK..thanks for the support


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2682 | Registered: Jan 2010
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful song, SBB.

Chrysalis, now you can soar, Honey. Fly & soar & live your life without chains.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9685 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My friend, you are more a Phoenix than a Crysallis -you know that, don't you? What a wonderful way to out maneuver him!

Your free to fly! I can't wait to see how high you soar without his chains dragging you down.

Love and hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5107 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So happy for you! Congratulations!


Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely.

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divorced 8/5/14


Posts: 1345 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Big celebration (((hugs))).

I hope he chokes on his own disappointment.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5824 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

With tears, thank you friends.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2682 | Registered: Jan 2010
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you.
And FTG.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4634 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, and FTG...FTG...FTG


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2682 | Registered: Jan 2010
MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just got my finalization date today. I am not free, but I see the finish line. My D is not going nearly as tough as your's sounds though, so all I'll say is I am happy you are now free, and you feel like you won. Peace and strength to you and your kids - the worst is over!


ďThe wound is the place where the Light enters you.Ē ― Rumi

Posts: 1116 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
Lost15
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! I'm glad that things went good for you. They didn't go as well for my mediation today.


me(BS)-34 him(WS)-32 DS-15
Married 15 years
Blindsided with divorce 07-12-13
DD-08-1-13 OW-40ish,married 20 yrs, with 4 kids she abandoned
Divorcing and trying to move one tiny step forward at a time.

Posts: 114 | Registered: Oct 2013
norabird
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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's great!


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4172 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a relief! So awesome to be DONE!!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3586 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 12:50 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fantastic! So happy for you!!


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7813 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Freeeeeedoooooooom!!!!!

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 12:57 AM, March 18th (Tuesday)]


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6443 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 1:31 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bravo!!!!


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

Posts: 25429 | Registered: Sep 2005
dmari
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Default  Posted: 1:35 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I am feeling so happy for you!!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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