* I am a RS (Recovering Scumbag)
* Do as I say, NOT as I did. :-(
* I acknowledge the grace I have received. I know do not deserve it.
Tell the truth without exception: Big truths, small truths, easy truths, hard truths.
Be completely transparent - offer the truth directly, and provide every possible access to the truth.
Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9
Do you know her love languages? Speak them to her with your actions.
How did you win her at the beginning of the relationship? Did you walk up to a random chick and propose? Doubtful. Court her man. All those silly romantic things you did before, do it again. And keep doing it. Don't ever stop.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?
All those silly romantic things you did before, do it again.
Yes, but the problem is that they are all triggers now and reminders of what should have been.
All those little things, taken together, make me feel special. And there are dozens of little phrases he uses, things he's said, that give me hope that we might just make it. Every time he goes to church with me or meets me after S-Anon meetings for a treat or kisses my forehead or delivers my phone to work (if I've forgotten it at home yet haven't asked for it), or does a household chore that he hasn't done in a long time--every time I end up feeling more special.
Find a few of her favorite things and do them. Ask her, sure, what she'd like. But try to anticipate others. It's so powerful when you take that initiative. Good luck!
[This message edited by RippedSoul at 11:48 PM, March 18th (Tuesday)]
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