You've been heard. I was thinking of posting my own topic as A season is approaching for me.
IMO he can't be "over it" AND remorseful.
You know those human interest stories they play when they broadcast the IRONMAN every year. A story of a woman or man who lost a leg due to some horrific accident and has overcome great challanges to compete in such a watershed event. Now imagine if that limb were lost due to the deliberate action of another human. The very same human that sleeps in your bed next to you.
Forgive the crude analogy, but you have a prosthetic leg. Your WH took your leg. Even if you win the IRONMAN and get a speacial interest story told about you (which arguably would have never happened if your husband hadn't taken your leg), you'de still prefer to have two working legs right? Your H shouldn't be able to get over it. Ever.
Now ask me why any athlete would still associate with the criminal that blew their leg off. I am still trying to answer that myself.