Stronger - you are SO RIGHT about it being tied to image...It is sick and scary that so much of what my BFF is going through is related to NPDX's perception of himself (and his desire that others perceive him)as the victim/good guy who's been horribly wronged. Not to mention COSTLY!
For a time he did not have an attorney. I agree with the poster who says that is the worst of the two evils - he was OFF THE RAILS during that time. Hopefully his new (latest) attorney can do something, anything, to get him to back the fuck off.
I am so sorry that you're all dealing with this crap. It's just so overwhelming and debilitating