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User Topic: I think I'm going to start a new type of prostitution ring....
She11ybeanz
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Wink  Posted: 9:25 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

for cuddling!!!!!

Sometimes I really just miss spooning at night with someone with their arms wrapped tightly around me.....or holding my hand. Or just snuggling up during a movie or show that I enjoy in the evenings.... or just some light affection in public....hand holding...hugging.

There is no sex allowed. Just heavy spooning and big warm bear hugs!!! ::sigh::

It was a fun fleeting thought anyways...

HAPPY THURSDAY SI PEEPS!!!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is actually a business out there. I read about a woman that does this. You can buy an hour of cuddling, if needed.

I could lend you a corgi if Piper isn't doing the job for you. They are the best snugglers ever.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7411 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
RavenWood
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Google "Cuddle Party", you'll see they already beat you too it!


BS: Me (30s)
WW: Her (30s)
10 year marriage with 2 small children.
OM: Married coworker
Status: Divorced.
DDay: May 2013

Posts: 52 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: RavenWood
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DANG!!!!! I thought I was on to something!

Oh no....baby cuddles are the BEST CUDDLES in the whole wide world.... just different!

I miss the safe warm cuddle of the opposite sex. It just feels nice to be enveloped in someone's arms. IDK. Hard to explain. But, when I hug my daughter....and cuddle with her....I feel more like the protector and safe house for her.....and I can feel so much love in her hugs....and her snuggles. Best. Feeling. Ever.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There was a report done on it in our area as well.
What cracked me up was that the reporter, out of respect for his wife, wrapped himself completely in tons of bubblewrap BEFORE getting into cuddle position.

I think the cuddle business is weird, but the bubble wrapped reporter was pretty awesome!


Me - 42
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
5 Furkids (3 Dogs, 2 Cats)

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

Note: I edit often for typos/clarity.


Posts: 6050 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

heavy spooning


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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Rainbows
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get it! I had no idea there was an industry for it. My little dog is a snuggle monster and it's wonderful, but not the same.

I love that feeling of snuggling up to someone who fits perfectly with me. Those warm, tight bear hugs are the best, too.


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 388 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay....don't judge me but I had to google the "cuddle party" thing and I won't lie.... it was intriguing to me.....but I can totally see myself in my pajamas....and some weird guy asking if can cuddle me and me saying....."NO WAY" and running out the front door!

They said it is perfectly within your right to say no.... How awkward would that moment be???

But, if one of those parties was closer than 4 and a half hours away..... (and yes I looked) I would probably consider giving it a curious try....

Although...when I looked at the registration options you have

1. Cuddle party gal
2. Cuddle party guy
and
3. Energetic Sex Practicum plus Cuddle Party

#3 is exactly $69 more than #1 and #2....hmmmm....was that done on purpose??? (leave it to the accountant to figure that one out!)

And, what do you suppose that entails??

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 12:44 PM, March 20th (Thursday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Whalers11
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Default  Posted: 12:51 PM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I miss this too. A lot.


Me: BGF - 33
Together 11+ years - not married, no children.
D-Day: 2/9/2010
OC Born: 10/9/2010
Status: He chose OW/OC and left immediately.

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IWantDoOver
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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We all need a hug some days.

(((She11ybeanz)))

But please tell me while you're on probation at work that you are NOT googling "cuddle parties" and writing about "prostitution" on your work computer.


Peace

Posts: 212 | Registered: Jun 2013
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

But please tell me while you're on probation at work that you are NOT googling "cuddle parties" and writing about "prostitution" on your work computer.

Of course not. I used my cell phone on my break. And, I'm not on probation but I definitely know better than to do something stupid like that!!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Embers2Fire
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of the things that I missed so much that my body literally craved it was cuddling. I desperately missed being held till I fell asleep at night, I missed the warmth of a body wrapped around mine. I would have to take sleep aids because it was so hard to sleep without the feel of someone next to me. If I were still single there is no doubt I would find a cuddle party and attend. In fact the loss of someone to hold and cuddle me was so great for me that I would consider the training to become a facilitator. This really got me thinking how awesome it would be to be able to provide this in a safe non sexual environment. There are soooo many lonely, hurting people out there that just want someone to hold them or hug them. This would be a great way for me to give back since God has been so gracious to me. Thank you for posting about this Shelly and for being able to be honest about the importance of needing to be held and cuddled in your own life. This post has possibly opened a door for me to do something that I think is desperately needed for people of all walks of life. The website I found had no mention of sex or it being permitted at all, this was all about being held. I am going to talk to my hubby and see what he thinks about me becoming a facilitator for cuddle parties. The ministry of Christ was all about meeting hurting people and healing the broken places inside them, to me these cuddle parties could do the very same thing if done in an appropriate and nonsexual environment. Thanks again


BS - me 49
XWH - him 48
DDay 05/08
Married 25 yrs, 2 sons 28/23
Divorced
2nd Marriage 11/1/13 livng the dream
Thanks to you I'm finally thinking about me, you know in the end the day you left was really my begnning - Kelly Clarkson

Posts: 410 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Memphis, TN
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, March 24th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No problem Embers....

I still would consider attending one of these parties....and I also would be interested in at least the process of what entails becoming a facilitator....I know what its like to crave human touch....crave being close to someone...I miss it SO VERY MUCH.... 2 years is a LONG TIME...

I look forward to the day I find someone that I can share this special ROMANTIC bond with. I get baby cuddles daily...which are the absolute BEST kind...but...just different.


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2710 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
luvbug0915
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, March 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After my separation from xwh I had several months of what I used to call "sowing my oats", but later came to realize I was trying to fill that physical need for caring and compassionate human touch.

It was after that realization I read about Cuddle Parties and began attending. I can't tell you how much this impacted my life and my journey to healing.

Before the cuddling begins there is a period of instruction and some exercises to get you more comfortable, you can choose to leave after this if you feel its not for you. During the introduction they ask each person to introduce themselves and to share what they expect or are hoping to get out of attending. I shared that I had been recently divorced and I missed just being held, that I had not been held in many months.

At that first Cuddle Party I met a spiritual healer, I was drawn to him immediately so when he asked me to Cuddle I was all for it. He asked how I wanted to be held and I told him. I buried my head in his chest and he wrapped his arms around me and began to hum. It was the most amazing sound and the energy radiating from him was breathtaking. I could feel the months of stress and heartbreak melting away and I began sobbing. The heavier I cried the more intense his humming became, it was simply beautiful. He just rocked me, stroked my hair and let me get it all out. Months and months of pain and despair vanished in an evening and my life was forever changed.

I attended many more Cuddle Parties up until I met my xso but have not been to one since my breakup back in November. There have been 2 scheduled since then but I wasn't able to make either of them.

I had the opportunity to share my experience with 2 friends a couple years ago and both were very intrigued and happened to be touch deprived. I ended up facilitating an impromptu Cuddle Party and I have to say that it was just as amazing as the ones I attend.

I can't say enough good things about properly facilitated Cuddle Parties. If this type of interaction is appealing to you and you have the opportunity to attend, you will not be sorry you did!


"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle


Posts: 1027 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Metro Atlanta
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, March 25th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He asked how I wanted to be held and I told him. I buried my head in his chest and he wrapped his arms around me and began to hum. It was the most amazing sound and the energy radiating from him was breathtaking. I could feel the months of stress and heartbreak melting away and I began sobbing. The heavier I cried the more intense his humming became, it was simply beautiful. He just rocked me, stroked my hair and let me get it all out. Months and months of pain and despair vanished in an evening and my life was forever changed.

This sounds SO NICE......I would kill for this. The closest one to me is next month about 4.5 hours away...and I would have to stay the night without my daughter....she's only spent 2 nights of her life without me. So, I don't know if its worth it... But, I would love to go to one. I really would....


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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