So, how easy is it to D?? I mean with absolutely no problems? He's okay with me asking for full custody, but I agreed not to ask for spousal support. He gives me enough to pay his own bills (under my name) and I am happy with that.
So, again, how easy is it to D with no problems? We have no property or assets. Just debt under my name, but I don't care. All I care about are having full custody of the boys.
Also, what't the major difference between D and S??
My state recognizes both legal separation and dissolution, both of which can be done without attorneys very easily. We considered legal separation, which would prevent any future marriage by either of us because you are still legally married (though you are no longer legally tied to future incurred debt/assets), but we opted for dissolution. I received 100% legal/physical custody and we followed the state guidelines for CS. We had agreed amicably on the distribution of assets/debts. All assets/debts must be equitably distributed as the final agreement must be approved by the judge. If he/she feels there is anything "inequitable," they will not approve it. We have a 30 day waiting period once filed, then its over.
Don't think you don't have "assets." Everything you own that was acquired during the marriage is a marital asset (think household furniture/goods, vehicles, any checking/savings accounts, retirement accounts, etc.). Everything must be equitably distributed.
[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 3:05 PM, March 20th (Thursday)]
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet
No handshake agreements with someone proven to have no honour.
I would sell the ring and hire a lawyer - IMO it is a False Economy to DIY this stuff especially with someone untrustworthy.