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User Topic: t/j on T-M-I posts
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I should just stay out of posts that start with TMI...there are a few right now. Not always bother-some or legit TMI to me...but others, man.

Some of the TMI stuff, I look read as far as I can and slowly back out the door before being seen.

I am in no way saying anyone is wrong for posting their thoughts and ideas, that is not my intention.

I am really private, probably in a bit of a broken way. The sex-talk, vibrator chit-chat (killing me just to write that here) really makes my skin crawl.

Knowing I feel this way, why do I not just avoid the damn posts that say TMI? I should trust the poster...but noooo, it's like a train wreck, I have to go in to only run out like a 2 year old.

Anyone else have a difficult time with TMI posts? Or am I the only one?


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah.What you said. Same.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6639 | Registered: Jan 2011
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG, thank you Rebreather...I thought there was something wrong with me.

Well, something new wrong with me lol


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3858 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
neverdidithink
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have to go in to only run out like a 2 year old.


I'm reading TMI threads wondering if I'll ever be brave enough to share like that. Maybe it's a stiff upper-lip New England thing, karma?


Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9


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boontje
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're not alone. I work with teens and hear enough TMI during a typical school day, then check Facebook to find more, so I usually stay out of TMI threads for my own sanity.


Me: BS
Dday: June 2011
Working on R, one day at a time

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.”
― Ernest Hemingway



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Default  Posted: 3:14 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't feel there is anything wrong with you Karma, I feel we all are different in what we express. My thread on TMI is D/S was about me and what happened. I loved that people can go to that and post funny things and thoughts but not all of us are that way.

Don't feel like you are different. It took me ALLLOOONNNGGG time to get comfortable to be able to post something like that. But, it feels good I can/able to post and get feed back about something that bothers me in any sense of the form.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"


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karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't even seen yours Faithful.... I think I need to go cold turkey and stay out of those lol


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3858 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the fact that we're (for the most part) nameless, faceless people helps loosen up the tongue.
I would NEVER tell close friends or relatives the stuff I posted in the TMI BOB thread, lol. I would die simply thinking about confessing that stuff.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It took me a long time to figure out what a BOB was.
And I just don't click on the TMI threads - unless they're girl/PMS related. Not sure why.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


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Neverwudaguessed
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok, this is how clueless I am rachelc: BOB????


BW: 44 Me
WH:48
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(battery operated boyfriend)


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for cl


Posts: 6677 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
yearsofpain25
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have to say thank god this place is ANONYMOUS!! I posted to some of those threads. Some very private stuff and some of it pretty graphic too. I don't think I would be able to discuss any of that in a public forum if I wasn't able to hide behind the anonymity of this place.

[This message edited by yearsofpain25 at 3:34 PM, March 21st (Friday)]


25 years and counting of pain caused by mother's infidelity. Aftermath: 1 deceased sibling, 1 lost family, 3 lost souls.
"Each new day I am just glad to be alive and have survived all that I did." Ashland13

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somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..

..

we're (for the most part) nameless, faceless people

..my face has been plastered all over this site in the photo threads down in F&G..

..God knows who may have come in and said, "Holy shit...I know that guy!"

..and I've posted on a few threads some TMI that would make a sailor blush

..too late now!!!

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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rachelc
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

that is true, yearsofpain. Two years ago I had a TMI issue, posted here and got tons of great advice... I wasn't alone, I realized.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5486 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
Neverwudaguessed
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks GabyBaby for enlightening me!!!!!


BW: 44 Me
WH:48
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11

Posts: 724 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I usually check out the TMI posts just to see if it's something I can contribute to, but I usually back out quietly and move on.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't have a problem with them. I've posted in a few. I figure no one here will ever know who I am..so why not? If my answer/response on one of those threads helps anyone, Im ok with being bold.

I have talked about things here on SI that I would never talk about with anyone IRL. I am an incredibly private person. I have trouble letting people get to know me(trust issues..whodathunkit??). On here, I can let it all out, so to speak. It's freeing.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've gotten quite an education from some of the TMI threads. Even if it's about an issue that doesn't really pertain to me.....I'm always interested in learning about something new. I mean, I haven't gone into a *sex shop* in years and I don't browse the internet sex toy sites, so where else would I have learned that there are BOB's with ears....and that they are the most awesomest (supposedly) thing on earth?
The knowledge base on SI is just too vast for me to resist reading those threads. But notice, I said *reading*. Posting? Not so much.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Default  Posted: 3:40 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well I just have to state for FACT that my TMI thread would make anyone feel better with laughter! And I am glad to say that I for one am out of my shy phase now thanks to SI.... I say hell bells, other woman know what my wh private looks like and feels like so why be private anymore.. If he can put that out there then I can put my shit out there also on SI.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"


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Tearsoflove
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I, too, am uncomfortable with them. However, I still go in and read in case there is a legitimate question concerning whether certain things are normal or not. If I have experience with it, I answer (even though it makes me uncomfortable) if my answer might in some way make the poster feel he or she isn't the only one going through something. If it's just TMI with no question, I stop reading and don't post. I don't really find other people's sex lives or lack thereof amusing so I leave those to the people who do.

[This message edited by Tearsoflove at 4:22 PM, March 21st (Friday)]


"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson


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