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User Topic: Can I be pissed for a minute?
Faithful w/Love
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just for a minute...
Why did I just get a text saying this "It's not gonna work faithful. I'm pretty sure"

Ummm no it is not going to fucking work you jackass, you can't treat me like a doormat anymore and think I will just take the shit! And you are more than likely into someone else again! No relationship will work if you don't put yourself into it! Fucking pathetic!

But, we all know how this story goes. Don't worry I didn't feed into it. Just said "Whatever you say"

I hope he gets all that he is searching for!

Done with vent!

For those of you done with this circus be so grateful!


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
Jennifer99
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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are so smart! You handled it great!

I'm pretty sure I would have responded with "No s___, a____".


Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013
Jennifer99
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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are so smart! You handled it great!

I'm pretty sure I would have responded with "No s___, a____".


Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013
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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just can't feed into it anymore. He wants us done and for me to file, I am really starting to feel I will be doing it. I already spoke to lawyer and mom will give me the 500 retainer when she gets back from vacation.

I really hope he has no regrets cause his comfortable couch ( call me Faithful) will not look back. Nope won't be doing what I did the first time we separated.

Piss on him! He can have his little friends and I hope he falls on his dick, don't come running to me when you need support!!!


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
Jennifer99
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just can't figure out why this wimpy___ guys can't just FILE or say they want a divorce but don't want to be the one to file. Why the weird games?

btdt

Its SO much better since the FILE is done. The strange comments have drastically reduced in the last 20 days and I only have 70 more to go LOL

Just think, the sooner you get it done the sooner it can ALL be done.


Posts: 556 | Registered: Jun 2013
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Jennifer,
He did say he wanted a divorce but wanted me to file! When I told him he could file he got pissed OFF big time....

I will file now cause I am FED UP with the shit!

70 more days for you WOOHOO....

I will be along to join shortly!


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He probably doesn't want to spring for the filing fee.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well yeah Nik,
He thinks we can do all this for 100 dollars without anyone.

I have done my research and we don't really need lawyers but we do need meditation. I will not just file like.... yeah, just sign the dotted line here hon and it is all over for you fluff brisket!


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

***"It's not gonna work faithful. I'm pretty sure"***

Dunno *why* you got that text. I do know that whenever I received a text along those lines it was because stbx had his eye on a new bedwarmer -- and this was his way of giving himself permission to pursue her.

Aside from that......he's kinda slow on the uptake, isn't he? Isn't he just repeating what you have been telling him for about the past 3(ish) weeks?



"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7949 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gonna, you are right! I am now the prey of mental games again. Now he's pulling the bills card. This is due and that is due. Little dud I know because he keeps that the bills till last minute however I know he is sitting on money and I have little. Whatever, and he owes me 300 fromwhen I paid for some bills for him when we were separated.

I know what he is doing and he isn't gonna be nice! Lord I wish I never moved back here


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
LoveHerStill
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In the long run it does not matter who files at all.

I would retain a lawyer just to check your divorce docs to make sure you have all your bases covered and that you get what you are entitled to under the law and he doesnt hide finances or try to screw you. You can do most of the work yourself to save money and just have your lawyer review or create the final docs for you.

Your STBX is a coward, like most cheaters, try not to take it personally, the vast majority of us have or had cowards for waywards.


If you are done, file and get the process started, it takes a while.

Peace tou you and to us all.


Me BH-45
Her WW-44
Married-20yrs
Together-26yrs
D-Day 4/11/10
Divorced 9/13/2010
XWW Married OM 5/23/2011

There is hope. Once you truly commit to focusing on yourself and letting go, it comes back, and you will appreciate it like never before.


Posts: 462 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Seattle, WA
MadeOfScars
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, March 21st (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would retain a lawyer just to check your divorce docs to make sure you have all your bases covered and that you get what you are entitled to under the law and he doesnt hide finances or try to screw you. You can do most of the work yourself to save money and just have your lawyer review or create the final docs for you.

Absolutely. My STBXWW gave the whole "we can settle this for like $200" spiel too, but I went ahead and hired a lawyer, filed, then my lawyer drafted up the paperwork the way I wanted and I sent it to the STBXWW myself. I know things don't work exactly the same in every state or country, but here, I forked out a little more cash for peace of mind that I don't lose much more later.

I also can't help but wonder if I didn't hire a lawyer and file, if we'd even be proceeding with the D yet. She made it clear it's what she wants, but took no steps to initiate the process. I found that odd at the time, but yeah, this is just another sign of how the wayward are cowardly. Seems the stories of the betrayed filing, even when it was the wayward's wishes, are pretty par for the course...

[This message edited by SoulHurts at 7:43 PM, March 21st (Friday)]


“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.”

Posts: 980 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, March 22nd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Usually "we can do this without lawyers" is WS speak for "I want free reign to manipulate you into giving me everything".

If you have kids or financial assets to protect then you definitely need one. But hey you can always have your lawyer write up papers and see if he will sign them.


Keep calm and carry on.

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