Please exass do not use big words that you do not understand.
Unbelievable how indignant they become when they are treated with an appropriate level of trust.
The sad clown arranges/pays for all out of school care - it has to be in his name so he can get all of the government rebates etc. Before our decree was final my big girl had her first school holidays. He decided because vacation care was not specifically mentioned he doesn't need to pay - whatever - the fucked up part is he didn't tell me until a few days before the holidays. He KNEW this was our verbal agreement and he KNEW he was reneging on it. Still, he chose not to inform me until the last minute.
I had to do a mad run-around to find care for her - I explained what he had done to the care people and they were all shocked "AYFKM?? That is low!" was the gist of thee reaction. I sorted it all out in the end.
Fast forward to next holidays and decree is in place with vacation care costs 70/30 and he suggests he book/pay for it all and I reimburse him. I tell him no - I won't be exposed like last time. Ill book/pay for my own dates and we'll each reimburse. No bundling. No handshake agreements with men without honour.
WTFever dude, you have no integrity so please stop expecting to be treated like you do.